It usually isn't difficult for the Libra girl to persuade the Ram to unbar his door
or his heart to her. He's putty in her lovely, dimpled hands - and Rams, as you
know, are normally putty in no one's hands. Aries men are not made of Silly
Putty. They are made of iron and steel (the metals associated with the Aries
Sun Sign). But with the Libra lady, he'll melt like a snowman in July. He can't
resist her charm, the way she praises all the wonderful qualities he's perfectly
aware he possesses himself, but which others are (it seems to him) forever ignoring
- the undeniable sexual chemistry between them, and her womanly sweetness.
(This is in the beginning. Later, he will experience a few surprises regarding
her "womanly sweetness.") Besides, she's probably quite beautiful (most
Libra females are), with a smile like carob cupcakes, and every Aries man adores
having a girlfriend or a wife who causes other men to envy him. He needs to be
proud of the woman he loves, to be able to show her off and brag about her. He
wants her to always look prettier and be smarter than other women so it will be
obvious that he's won first prize in the love carnival. (Rams, you see, have this
inbred thing about winning.)
Since she probably is superior to lots of other women, super bright and startlingly
attractive, curvaceous and so forth, this woman will fit all his Mars requirements,
and at the start of their affair, everything will be peaches and cream
and buttery softness between them.
But the Libra woman in love with an Aries man may later find herself
knocked out of balance frequently. Considering her nearly neurotic reaction to
being forced into instant action before she's completely sure what she wants to
do, having an impatient lover or husband shout, "Come on, what's it going to
be - pineapple sherbet or deep-dish apple pie a la mode? The waiter is growing
a beard waiting for you to decide" - could cause their relationship to suffer
some rocky periods. This man wants things done now, immediately - even
sooner if at all possible - even though his demands for whatever it is he wants
are often given at the last minute. "Do you want me to do it today, darling,"
she'll ask, "or may I do it tomorrow?" (Whether it's taking his favorite red
sweater to the cleaners or typing up his address book so he'll have an extra copy
if he loses it. He's always losing things.) "Today," he'll tell her. "I want it done
today." (If he'd wanted it done tomorrow, he'd have
most Rams would like anything they "request" to be done yesterday.
This sort of irrational and impatient Mars-like reasoning can throw her
delicate Venus psyche out of kilter. She could ask, "Isn't it more intelligent to
plan ahead and try to do it tomorrow?" only to hear him shout at her, "Don't
argue with me! Just do as I say -
he'll add the "Please" - if not, he'll just toss out his orders cheerfully,
thoughtlessly demanding, without the slightest idea he's being unreasonable
and somewhat spoiled.
I know one Libra wife who gave her Aries husband a birthday gift she made
herself. A wall hanging created in velvets and satins, with variations of the Marsfire-engine red tones, embroidered with the words: "Dear Lord, give me the gift but hurry." He was delighted. That's one of the nice things about(gently, not harshly or with a severe, critical attitude).too readyhim.
Why aren't they friendlier? Why don't they see he's sorry for his hasty words
and has already forgotten his anger? The Ram will expect people to forget an
injury as swiftly as he does. He's always deeply wounded when people pout or
bear a grudge over something he considers past and forgotten.
His enemies today are his buddies tomorrow. He'll rush home furious with
someone, and expect his Libra lady to share his fury toward the person who's offended
him. If she refuses to do so, if she fairly tries to see the other person's
side of the issue, and attempts to point out to her Aries lover or husband where
he just might have been wrong, he'll turn on her, sometimes violently, sometimes
even tearfully - and accuse her of disloyalty. She doesn't love him. If she
loved him, she would be on
in her Libra fairness. The only
While the Ram is angry, it's impossible for him to see any side but his own,
and he definitely will expect the woman he loves to champion him fiercely and
consistently. The next day, he may feel quite "sheepish" about the whole thing,
and be a perfect "lamb" about confessing his rashness and making amends for
has realized it himself. But not before he's realized it on his own. Never before.
Naturally, a Venus-ruled female is more capable than most women of balancing
the delicate situation of the quick tempers and even quicker reconciliations
of the Ram she loves. She's tender, womanly, logical, and intelligent and
wise. But she was born under a masculine sign, and she can balk once in a whileherself when she feels he's being completely unfair. It probably won't change No one tells him what to do. He is hisopenly directs him to do.
him, however. He'll either pout or storm angrily out the door (slamming it hard
as he leaves), or sulk in the corner, convinced she hates him.
It wouldn't be wise for the Libra woman to display her "iron fist in its velvet
glove" too often with this male. He senses when he's being manipulated,
after a period of time. He may innocently accept it for a while (Aries possesses
almost no guile, and is nearly never unduly suspicious), but once he's caught on
that she's trying to mold him into any sort of pattern of behavior, he'll become
either obstinate or outraged - or both.
own boss. Even when he earnestly desires to take a certain course of action, he's
likely to refuse to do it if he thinks she wants him to, not because he's suspicious
of her motives, but because he has a horror of doing anything someone else suggests
- especially anything someone else
The fact that she likes to argue (discuss, debate, or whatever) every minor
and major decision or situation won't alienate the typical Aries man. He sees
this as controversy, challenge, excitement! He'd be bored to tears with a woman
who never fought back with him. His Mars nature is exhilarated by the promise
of battle, whether it's only a mild personal verbal battle over which film to
see - or what kind of car to buy - or an argument concerning public or more
general topics, like what should be done about pornography, solar heating, nuclear
power, corruption in politics, or any other burning issues of the day. But
he'll like to win all these discussions. He won't give in, not an inch - until he
does win (or until his clever Libra lady allows him to believe he's won). Then he
feels proud, self-contented, and happy. And he'll treat her with all the loving affection
and tenderness any woman could desire.
This man's sexual image of himself is closely woven into his ability to be always
right and emerge victorious in the eyes of the woman he loves. He must be
respected, liked, agreed with, and looked up to in order to properly project his
considerable Mars virility as a lover. If he feels rejected intellectually or in any
other way, he'll freeze into Aries ice (always more serious and lasting than Aries
fire - or fiery rages). Their sexual relationship will normally be an uncommonly
happy and wholesome one. Her femininity and his masculinity harmonize
beautifully and smoothly, in the most natural way. As long as she doesn't allow
the masculine side of her Sun Sign essence to intrude into their intimacy (like
displaying her capabilities in every area under the Sun to be equal to his, which
they quite probably are) and then expect him to feel like the conquering male in
a physical sense. He must take the lead in their sexual togetherness, as in every
other way. If she allows this, and understands the needs behind it, he'll be the
most sensitive, romantic, sentimental, affectionate, and passionate lover she
could imagine. But he can become a demanding tyrant if she destroys his ultranecessary
confidence in himself.
There's little chance of this occurring, unless she has the Moon or Ascendent
in Virgo, Sagittarius, Cancer, or Capricorn - or a lot of planets in Earth
Signs in her birth chart. Her basic instinct is tact and thoughtfulness, which is
usually blended nicely and equally with her own well-designed and controlled,
forceful drive and aggressive nature.
Although their natures constitute a clear polarity, the Mars-ruled man and
the Venus-ruled woman are exquisitely mated. After all, Mars and Venus themselves
fell wildly and permanently in love - even while Venus was wed to Jupiter.
They were caught, of course, in a web woven sneakily by Neptune - but the
anger of Jupiter didn't dim their passion by any means. A study of Greek mythology
is of immense benefit in comprehending all Sun Signs.
Taking into consideration that the Ram likes to leap around on rocky slopes and
the Venus lady lives in a precarious world of the swinging trays of her goldenScales, wherein the slightest breath of wind can upset her inner harmony and they were to return home together, after all their adventureshomewhere
outward tranquility, these two often manage to blend their divergent natures
with surprising success. The Libra woman can find the intoxicating freedom
and exciting mental activity she seeks through this man - and the Ram will enjoy
walking through Libra's cool woods, down winding trails of bluebells and
The Libra lady is quite a lot of woman. Very few men can cope with her
powerful combination of masculine determination and delectable daintiness.
But the Aries man is one for taking on super challenges and winning them - and
her challenge offers precious rewards to the victor. All men are little boys at
heart, but the Ram is more so than most. There's nothing childish about him on
the surface. He's tough and forceful - the kind of male they call a man's man.
It's the aura of impossible dreams and wistful yearnings hovering mistily around
his shoulders that gives him his air of youthfulness some lingering enchantment
behind his eyes that makes him so vulnerable. If she uses her Venusian
charm and patience to direct his flaming ambitions and incredible energies
toward some worthy goal, he can become a crusader for all manner of goodness
and glory. (Both of them possess a strong sense of mercy for the weak and can
become outraged over injustice.)
She'll seldom or never drown his enthusiastic spontaneity with stern criticism,
sarcasm, silent pouting, long brooding silences, or withdrawal - and that
will please him. He'll seldom or never refuse to be genuinely interested in and
fascinated by her need to talk things over and discuss them - and that will comfort
The root cause of any difficulties between them will spring from their
shared birthright of the Cardinal essence. For they are both Cardinal Signs of
Leadership, Aries and Libra. A relationship will never work when there's a constant
battle over which one is the chief, and which one is the Indian - or which
one is the general and which one is the private - who gallops ahead and who
canters behind. They'll have to learn to ride their horses side by side, as equals,
not as superior and subordinate. It's the only way they'll ever find the way back
home into each others' hearts when they've quarreled and both of them have
been deeply hurt. Otherwise, they'll get lost like Hansel and Gretel, and you
know how glad
were over. The only real security anyone has is the safety of being loved by
someone who accepts you just as you are, with all your flaws, and wouldn't trade
you for another - ever. Someone who makes you know this, even when you're
behaving badly. That's safety. That's emotional security. That'slove is.
his side - and not defend his enemies. He's not interestedfair point of view is his and if shecared about him she'd see that.Then, you see, it's all right for her to say he's been wrong - because he
of patience -
the typical Arian. He's able to laugh at himself and seldom gets all stuffy when
his faults are pointed out
But they do have to be pointed out now and then. Once a Ram recognizes how
selfish he's being, he'll feel guilty and ashamed, say he's sorry, and promise not
to do it again, after which he'll proceed to do it again - and again - and again.
Apologies are not difficult for the average Mars-ruled male to handle. It's one of
the most lovable things about him. Aries is quick to admit a fault and accept
the blame, but not too quick to drop the bad habit that was apologized for so
openly and generously. Still, it's a decided virtue to be able to admit one's mistakes
and try again. He does try. He doesn't always succeed, but the good Lord
knows he tries.
She apologizes sweetly too. Like Aries, Libra seldom shrinks from admitting
mistakes and being willing to say she's sorry. In fact, she may be
to admit mistakes - or perhaps the better way to express it is that she may be
too ready and willing to decide that what she decided (or did) might have been
wrong. She'll worry if she's hurt his feelings by something she's said or done,
and try to gracefully atone in some way. She'll be doing a lot of that with this
man. Atoning, that is - apologizing and atoning for hurting his feelings, because
this man is ultrasensitive. He wants everyone to like him, even to love
him - family, friends, and strangers - and naturally the woman he owns.
(That's more or less the way he thinks of her - owning her, like a special, exciting,
precious, and long-awaited, long-prayed-for gift he found under his tree on
Christmas morning.) Aries men can be extremely self-centered without meaning
to be so. She'll gradually comprehend this, but before she does, her more
tender Venus feelings will be bruised more than a few times.
She'll try all her powers of Libra logic and persuasion to make him see that
not every single person in the world can love him. But it will make little impression
on her Ram. He won't be able to understand why he isn't liked and admired
by his worst enemies, never mind what he's said or done to anger them.
They should understand that he was right, after all - and that he meant no
harm. He was only defending himself from something negative they did toasked her tomorrow.) Actually,please." If he has a softer Moon Sign or Ascendent,