Friday, November 5, 2010


Like all females born under masculine Sun Signs, who are, in addition, ruled by
a masculine planet (in this case, Mars), the Aries girl has private doubts about
her femininity. Ever since dancing school, she's been reluctant to let her partner
take the lead.
Most of the fellows she's waltzed around have panicked when they weren't
allowed to set the pace and the rhythm of the relationship, and the male machismo
mystique being what it is, her feminine "macha" caused them all to stalk
off to look for a girl willing to humor their fantasies of superiority. The girl Ram
is far too honest to imitate her more submissive Sun Sign sisters by pretending
to allow the man to initiate every word and action, while she smiles with amused
tolerance behind his back. There's a perfect example of that sort of well-meant
but demeaning deception in Margaret Mitchell's great American novel,
With The Wind,
Gonewhen the dying Melanie says, of Ashley, "Look after him, Scarletbut never let him know."
After a few heartbreaking experiences of discovering that honesty is not always
the best policy when it comes to romance, an Aries female may understandably
(and justifiably) begin to have some inner traumas as she wonders
about her desirability as a woman. Then along comes a Cancerian man to court
her (yes, I said
straight out of a storybook. Not only that, he makes her laugh a lot, and laughter
never fails to brighten a Ram's disposition, making her sweeter to be around.
From the very beginning, he makes it clear that she excites him and thrills him,
no matter who walks through the door first, which one starts the conversation or
who initiates a telephone call. At last! She can finally do and say what comes
naturally around a man - and he still loves her. No wonder it's an intoxicating
experience for her. It may be the first time she's ever felt like a member of the
opposite sex.
When he convinces her she's not the wicked old witch after all, that she's
really lovely, desirable Snow White (as she always suspected) it can be exhilarating
- for a while. Assuming there's a harmonious aspect of interchange between
their Luminaries, Ascendents and other major horoscopic positions in
their nativities, her daydreams have a good chance of coming true. Otherwise,
Snow White could find herself living in the woods with only one of the Seven
Dwarfs - Grumpy - and still waiting in vain for the Prince.
An Aries female will never be permanently at peace with herself until she
discovers a man who will want her to love him freely and openly, without quibbling
over who initiates the first goodnight kiss, and without pouting if she occasure of winning. Cancer isWho's Who in Industry and Commerce
than any others (except Taurus and Capricorn), but that's because the
Cancerian has going for him a more than adequate substitute for courageous
Aries optimism - a hard-shell tenacity of purpose.
There's not much use trying to explain this to an Aries female. She's familiar
with a term like "determination," but she doesn't understand the word "tenacity,"
because it diametrically opposes her most evident quality - impatience.
Tenacity implies waiting, and this woman loathes to wait for anything, from a
bus or a red light to the arrival of her current lover at the door when they have a
date - or her husband's arrival home from work, if she's a married Ram. Let
him be five minutes late, and she either phones the sheriff in impulsive panic, or
paces the floor, working up sufficient steam to leap on him with reproaches
when he does arrive. Her Cancerian lover or mate's general attitude toward amnever scorch a shirt,always save cash, look prettier by sewingthis will make him feel emotionally secure. But she
bition and success, with or without the tenacity, utterly confuses her. She believes
in simple things, that people should face the direction in which they wish
to travel, and she faces the East. How can he ever expect to arrive in New York
when he's headed toward California? All right, so the world is round, and he
may eventually get there, but it takes so much time that way.
There are several possible outcomes for the dilemma. She can become desolate
in the face of his moody spells of depression, and finally decide she must
escape, to avoid the fate of seeing every last one of her fiery aspirations submerged
in his watery Cancerian pessimism. Or she can try to cheer him out of
his periodic melancholy with her own strong Mars faith, by boosting his spirits
with courage and humor - like reminding him of the old proverb that every
time a sheep bleats, it loses a mouthful of hay. He can throw up his hands in defeat
at her impulsive emotions and financial extravagance, take off alone with
his stamp collection and his old fishing hat - or he can gently, patiently teach
her that caution does sometimes make sense, and that counting to ten has the
benefit of never adding up to a total of zero.
Another trouble spot could be this man's tendency to keep secrets. The
Aries woman is not so closely molded in the image of the Sphinx as he. When
the Crab refuses to tell her what's on his mind, she may imagine all sorts of farout
things, and torture herself into a fit of Mars hysteria. He'll soon learn (let's
hope) that it's more peaceful in the long run to come completely clean with her.
To level. If he clams up, she'll just pry until she sees it's no use, then decide the
whole thing isn't worth the energy and heartache - and possibly leave him.
Suddenly. With little or no warning. Remember, Aries will waste no time on a
situation that's been analyzed as impossible to change. It could end with the
Crab still sitting on his secrets, while she skips off chanting Edna St. Vincent
Millay's lines: "Thanks be to God, the world is wide, and I am going far from
home - and I'll forget in Camelot the man I loved in Rome." He will weep.
Then, too, there's Mama. If his mother is still living, the girl Ram who loves
a boy Crab may have some stiff competition for his devotion and attention, perhaps
not when they first meet - but she won't avoid it forever. If his sainted
mother has passed on, Mama's qualities could take on added luster, seen
through the sparkling glass of memory. Did his mother
bake flat biscuits, sing off key, waste money or lose her temper? No. Never.
Not one single time. Did his mother
her own clothes, string her own beans, wear just the right amount of makeup
and know exactly what to say to make him smile when he was blue? Yes. She
did. Always. In a strange way, it might work to their benefit, the Mama thing.
A glowing example like that is surely a challenge, and this girl can't resist struggling
to meet a challenge. She may become nearly as perfect as he thinks his
mother is - or was - just to prove to him that no one can top a Ram.
In their sexual life, adjustments will also be necessary. When love is new,
his tender consideration for her desires and needs will make her feel cherished,
therefore emotionally secure. (Both of them have this incredible hang-up about
needing emotional security.) He'll be, in the beginning, a fabulous lover. A
Cancerian can be as imaginative, subtle and clever in the bedroom as he is at the
bank. Her frankness and lack of guile concerning sex, a sort of unconscious vulnerability
in her, will stir him deeply. Regardless of past experiences, an Aries
girl always brings a kind of fresh innocence to her approach to lovemaking - in
addition, when she loves, she loves fiercely and passionately, truly giving all of
herself in total honesty, and
may be unable to remember the thrill of their original physical compatibility
when he's been cranky and moody for a few days and refuses to respond to her
affectionate advances. What appears to be (but isn't) his rejection of her can
considerably dampen her erotic enthusiasm. It's the Moon. She'll just have to
wait until the Moon changes, and stops pulling his emotions back and forth like
a piece of taffy. What she should not do during these temporary Lunar phases
that threaten to eclipse their happiness is become angry, and say things to
wound him she'll later regret. He'll crawl into his Crab shell and stay there, for
this man is acutely sensitive. However much he may joke about it, he is - and
sexual hurt will cause him to retreat into brooding passivity for long periods. Or
worse yet, he could seek the solace of alcohol's seductive siren song.
On the happy side of this relationship, a Crab can be very amusing and entertaining,
and can make anything from counting money to digging clams wacky
fun, with loads of laughs. His beautiful sensitivity and his gentlemanly air of
protectiveness can bring out all the femininity in his Aries lady. He'll secretly
be proud of her courageous mind and bright spirit, no matter how he grumbles
about her immaturity, and he'll grow to depend on her for the emotional support
he needs when the Moon sends fragments of old fears from childhood to
haunt him. On the negative side, she may believe he's too stern at times, too
fussy or stingy, while he may feel she's not capable of taking care of herself without
a keeper. He could now and then drown his disappointments in drink or
drugs, always a very real danger with a Water Sign - and she could now and
then lose her quick fiery temper in such a way that it takes a long time to atone
for the pain it caused.
This is a man who's not ashamed of sentiment; he's affected by music, art
and poetry, and when his heart is moved, tears come to his eyes - and this is a
woman whose own heart needs a great deal of tender, loving care, for she is,
emotionally, an infant, whatever her chronological age. If they crossbreed her
Aries initiative with his Cancer tenacity, they might achieve wonders. Their natal
Suns are squared, and so it will require lots of patience - and lots of love.
But then, doesn't everything?

sionally interrupts him with a sudden burst of cheerful, enthusiastic chatter.
She needs a man who understands that if he'll just allow her to be herself, she'll
give him all the adoring love he needs to feel strong and virile and masculine.
Just murmuring "Whatever you say - or whatever you decide, dear" (with a
hidden smirk) is romantic hypocrisy, a travesty of honest devotion. Her love is
direct. It shrinks into restless frustration when it's restricted by petty arguments
over what constitutes the difference between masculinity and femininity.
She loves him with all her heart and soul and mind and being - isn't that
enough? Yes. It should be - and it very well may be, for a boy Crab. But
Rams have other areas of friction with Cancerians.
Both of them are intensely jealous. The chief difference is that Cancer enjoys
it more than Aries. To the Crab, jealousy simply proves how much he's
loved and needed, and with this woman, he'll get all of that kind of proof he
needs - maybe a little more than he can handle. Jealousy can sometimes bring
a sense of emotional security to the Ram too - just a light touch of it, now and
then. But when it's overdone to the point of smothering possessiveness, it can
sharply cramp her life-style, which is friendly, free and gregarious - and the
truth of it is that a Cancerian lover or mate may lay it on with a heavy hand,
once the courting gallantry is over, and he's sure she is his. Of course, it's equally
true that his Crab-like trait of hanging on, when it comes to love, is an indication
of his inclination toward loyalty and faithfulness. She certainly has no objection
to that. In her opinion, it's the very least one should expect from true
love. It's when his loyal devotion subtly and gradually is transformed into clinging,
which brings the feeling of being fenced in, that she'll show flashes of resentful
Each of these two Sun Signs is as fond of money, fame and recognition as
the other. However, the Crab hides his ambition better. Although they share
the same basic goals of emotional security and financial success, they have rather
seriously conflicting ideas about how to achieve them - as well as what to do
with money, when it's there. (She wants to spend it, or give it away, to create a
nice, smooth cash flow - he wants to save it to make it expand into a higher balance.)
Even before either of them achieves any degree of material success, there
will be disagreements. Aries is optimistic, positive,
often pessimistic, negative and fearful of the future (Crabs call it sensible caution)
- and this is where these two may need an interpreter to communicate.
It's impossible for the Ram to comprehend how the Crab hopes to win, at
the same time he's expecting to lose. To Aries, this puzzling Cancerian attitude
was expressed perfectly by physician-philosopher Jean-Baptiste Baudin, when
he wrote: "To be ambitious for wealth, and yet always expecting to be poor; to
be always doubting your ability to get what you long for, is like trying to reach
East by traveling West. There is no philosophy which will help a man succeed
when he's always doubting his ability to do so, and thus attracting failure."
Granted, there are more July birthdays in
court her) with a respectful, gallant courtesy, like a Prince


  1. 'Sigh' wish it wasnt true but it is i try so hard to understand him, i try to encourage him but as u say when your walking in the opposite direction how do u expect to get there im so fed up with the mood swings and half truth i broke the rules lashing out with words. The no communication has taken a tole feel like the attraction that was once there depleted and i feel trapped in a cycle of whos right and wrong. i once felt like i could be myself completly now i feel im walking on egg shells everytime i walk in the room. I love him with all my heart, wish i knew how to fix it..


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