As I've mentioned elsewhere in this chapter, Libra and Aries are opposite each
other in the karmic wheel of Life. The astrological rule is that you're strongly
attracted to the opposite sex of your opposite Sun Sign, but normally don't get
along too well with the same sex of that sign. It would seem then, that the Aries
woman and Libra man would be natural lovers, destined to live happily ever
Natural lovers they are, because the chemistry is right. Destined to live
happily ever after they may not be, unless there's a harmonious Sun-Moon relationship
between them, in which case they could remain sweethearts for a lifetime,
the choice being up to them. Otherwise, with a discordant Sun-Moon aspect
in their mutual charts, it could be touch and go. They may touch -
tenderly - but it won't be long until they go - in opposite directions - putting
them right back where they started: opposed.
It's a waste of time for astrologers to keep mentioning the Libra man's fatal
charm for women. He's been practicing it, with instant success, since he was
thirteen (or younger), and his reaction to flattery is simply to flash that dimpled,
Libra smile and murmur, "Tell me all about it, honey." All right, so he'saware of the blessings of his Venus birthright. He may not be as aware that all The French Lieutenant's Woman for proof.) When love is restrained,really inexhaustible?
that charm can be a curse when he's mixed up with an Aries female. (No one
ever gets involved with an Aries - they get mixed up.)
The long line of women who cue up behind him everywhere he goes will
turn an Aries girl who's been a gentle lamb into a Dragon Lady, with fire flaming
from her ears. Mars jealousy is often irrational, and it does cramp his Venus
style. Still, before he decides to leave her because she's spoiling all his fun, the
Libra man might meditate on the word "love." The longer it's stored up inside
and allowed to increase in depth, the more powerful and satisfying an emotion it
can be. (Read
then given fully at a special moment, with a very special person, it can
bring spriritual peace, along with physical ecstasy. Falling in love with love, and
getting married for the sake of marriage, are common Libra mistakes. She can
be lovely and desirable, but if she's not bright enough to argue with him and
challenge him, his fine Libra mind will get rusty. There's no chance of that with
an Aries girl. She'll provide him with all the arguments he could possibly use -
and enough mental challenges to last for several lifetimes.
When the Libra man gets restless and wants to roam - alone and free -
where he can once more accept the favors of a harem of females, the Aries woman
probably won't ask him shyly why he's leaving. She's more likely to shout,
"Where do you think you're going, Charlie?" He'll tell her he's off to find another
seashell, because the shore is full of them. She might remind him then,
that seashells are empty. Instead of throwing an emotional tantrum (which may
frighten him into splitting so fast he forgets to take along his classical tape cassettes
and his favorite baby-blue angora bathrobe), she'd stand a better chance
of winning (which is what all Rams want to do all the time) if she curbs her Mars
temper and uses his own Libra logic as a weapon. Which is only fair, since he's
always using it against her.
"Look, darling, Life is more than one long party of wine, women, and song.
While you're getting high on a steady flow of casual affairs, remember that after
you pour all the wine out of a flask, you have left only an empty bottle. Then
the party's over. Of course, you can always fill it up again from your inexhaustible
source, can't you sweetheart? Or is your capacity to love
Why don't you turn some of those romantic urges you express so well
(this works better if she's wearing his baby-blue bathrobe - especially this next
part) into other creative channels, like art, music, writing, or acting? I could
help you. I have a brain equally as brilliant as yours - even though our bodies
are made differently - because you're a man and I'm a woman."
The last reminder is a necessity. When a Libra male is led into thinking
about the differences between the sexes, he's more or less helpless. Not that the
typical Aries woman will have the patience to accept the foregoing advice. She's
more likely to yell at him to "Leave! Who needs you anyway!" - push him out
the door - slam it - lock it - toss his tapes and bathrobe out the window -
and then sit up all night crying in frustrated anger and regret. But I thought I'd
throw it in anyway, for those Aries girls who think they are emotionally mature
enough to cool it with this man. It's really the only way with Libra. Fairness,
logic, and reason. No skyrockets. They disturb his sense of harmony and topple
his equilibrium, which is always dangerously seesawing at best. Besides, if you
read the section just before this, you'll recall that Air Signs can be goaded into
tornado behavior that could make even a Ram run for shelter.
There are so many good things about this blend of Air and Fire between
Aries and Libra, it's a shame for them to spend their time bickering. The typical
Aries woman isn't looking for a muscle man. She wants a lover whose mentalmuscles have biceps. The Libra man's mind does. He'll stimulate and challenge they might want. Never mind. Like the benevolent dictator,like to win them
her mentally and emotionally. All she needs to do is choose a subject, and he'll
have a thousand and one things to say about it, pro and con. Since just a touch
of controversy intrigues her, she'll honestly enjoy the debates they have, as long
as they both play by the rules and refrain from punching each other in their
complexes or tramping on one another's delicate and sensitive Achilles' heels.
He'll find this an easier counsel to accept than she will. Tact and courtesy come
naturally to Libra, but such consideration for the other person comes hard to
This woman isn't basically selfish - she's thoughtless. She truly never
means to be rude or unkind, and certainly not toward the man she loves. She
simply doesn't think or count to ten before she speaks her mind. And her mind
can be quite opinionated. Don't forget that Aries is the Sun Sign of the benevolent
dictator, regarding both sexes. Benevolent dictators are genuinely concerned
about people, compassionate, generous, and devoted to the cause of everyone's
welfare. But they don't bother to ask the people they're so loyally
championing what it is
no matter what the people want, Aries will see that they get it - because
Aries knows what's best for them better than they do. Warmth and arrogance
make a frustrating blend, but all Fire Signs possess the combination, making
their friends, relatives, and lovers love them and want to strangle them by turns.
When someone points out to a girl Ram that she's being unreasonable and
impulsive - and the pointing out is done with tact, gentleness, and affection,
she'll never fail to listen, quickly see the error of her ways (she does everything
quickly), and try hard to please by making sweeping changes in her original
views. But when she's ordered or forced to halt along some mistaken course
she's chosen, there's no way she'll give in. That's too much like retreat and
Aries never, but positively never, retreats. Mars, the planet of war itself - retreat?
It will never happen. Since Mars is her ruler and influences all her motivations,
strategy, and behavior, you really can't expect this lady to accept dominance
or harsh criticism in a docile manner. If anyone can turn the female Ram
into a gentle lamb (besides Leo - and sometimes Gemini, Sag, and Aquarius),
it's a Libra man. He'll gently correct her, try to make her see her mistakes in an
affectionate and tender way. And nine times out of ten it will work like a charm.
The tenth time he should leave well enough alone and consider himself fortunate.
You can't win them all. The trouble is that Libra would
all - every debate, discussion, argument, dispute, and disagreement. So would
Aries. So unless one of them accepts defeat graciously at least part of the time,
there's never going to be peace in this relationship - and peace is what the Libra
man needs as desperately as the Aries woman he loves needs excitement.
She would profit by trying to give him the peace he needs, because some of
it would then drape its soft clouds over her too, softening her disappointments
and calming her fears of rejection. He'll likewise profit by trying to give her the
excitement she needs, because it will shake him from his spells of Libra lethargy
and keep his Scales swinging in balance, instead of dipping one way or the other
and getting stuck there.
The Libra man's unconquerable optimism (when his Scales aren't in a
down-swing mood of fretting futilely) will strike a spontaneous chord of response
in the Aries woman's heart, for it matches her own bright faith in tomorrow.
Her naive confidence that whatever she believes intensely enough and long
enough just has to come true will strike the same kind of response in him, often
moving him to tears (for he is sentimental). She'll like that in him, the sentiment.
That's why she fell in love with him, because he's the combination of
strength and tenderness she seeks.
But she'll become impatient and accuse him of being lazy, when he's in one
of his restful periods, not comprehending the necessity for his Venus-ruled natureto rest between long spells of energetic activity. Her own nature is differ
ent, her metabolism is so charged with vitality, she scarcely needs any rest at
all - or so it will sometimes seem to him.
His kindness and friendliness are the two qualities she loves most in him.
The very same two qualities he loves most in her. They are both kind, both
friendly. In a world full of people who are cool, detached, and disinterested, this
is not a small thing - and it forms an amazingly strong foundation for their relationship.
Being a 7-7 Sun Sign Pattern, very few of the disputes between the Libra
man and Aries woman will happen on the way to or from the bedroom. (Especially
if she buys him a king-size water mattress.) To a Libra male, drifting off
to romance or dreamland within the soft folds of one of those undulating, billowy
contraptions is very close to his idea of heaven. They may fight in the
kitchen, the den, the front room, the back porch, the garden, the basement, attic,
or garage - but when it's time to kiss goodnight, it will be time to make up
for these two. The reconciliation based on the undeniable sexual attraction between
them may not, however, last eternally (without that Sun-Moon harmony
assistance). He's gentle, poetic, imaginative, considerate, charming, and romantic,
all of which sends little tingles and shivers down her spine, from the top of
her hard head to the tips of her busy toes. Their physical relationship at first
seems like the tangible expression of every love song she's ever dreamed over
while she was waiting for the paragon of virtue she's imaged in her heart to come
That's the trouble. Making this man come to life. The Libra approach to
sex is mental, light, and airy. Libra men seek shimmering ideals and far-out experiences
of erotic expression and sensual feeling, sometimes so far out, sometimes
soaring so high above her head - she'll long for something solid to grab.
Like two warm arms and a burning passion you can touch, as well as dream
about. Ethereal love and aesthetic sexual response can leave Aries somewhat
chilly. Female Rams need plenty of warm affection and fiery lovemaking to feel
completely fulfilled in a physical relationship. With this man she may be left
feeling a little empty. Something is missing. Exactly what she can't say, maybe
the last line of the song. If she has the Moon in Libra, Gemini, Aquarius, Sagittarius,
or Leo - or if his Moon Sign is Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Gemini, or Aquarius
- the missing lyric may be found. If the Moon of either was in any other astrological
sign at birth, it may be elusive. But the search for it will be delightful.
A Libra man who memorized the old nursery rhyme in school that went:
"Peter, Peter, pumpkin eater - had a wife and couldn't keep her - put her in a
pumpkin shell, and there he kept her very well," had better check with Mother
Goose again. An Aries woman will not sit happily in a pumpkin shell while he
glides gracefully around the town, charming all the girls - or while he hides in
the library, polishing his Libra mind. With her, he shouldn't expect marriage to
balance his Scales - unless it's a complete mental and emotional partnership.
Still, if he's honest, he'll realize that's the kind of relationship he really needshimself. When all the parties are over.