To face an astrological truth bluntly and candidly, as Archers like to do, a Sagittarius
male is more likely than any other (with the exception of Gemini) to be
unfaithful in some way, if not physically, then mentally, through harmless flirting.
Naturally, that's a generality, certainly not true in every single case, with
every single Centaur. But it's true often enough to make a love affair between a
girl Ram and an even "mildly" promiscuous boy Archer about as much fun as
skipping rope in sandals with cherry bombs strapped to the heels. Any man who
thinks it would be a challenge to play that kind of romantic Russian roulette
with an Aries female would be safer taking American singer Anita Bryant to a
meeting of the Gay Liberation group. If you should run across a Mars-ruled girl
who claims she isn't jealous in the smallest way of her man's attentions to other
women, and theirs to him, she is either lying (because she has an afflicted Mars
or Mercury in her nativity) or she's adopted, and her parents didn't tell her her
true birth date. You can wager on it, and win. You have astrology's guarantee.
Of course, there's always the chance that she's not in love with the man who
doesn't arouse her jealousy (jealousy of all types being merely a deep-seated fear
of rejection), and she simply doesn't care. Aries ice. In fact, that's an excellent
barometer of the girl Ram's feelings. If she's casual or detached regarding her
lover or husband's flirtations, she's no longer in love, and he'll be told soon
enough that she's stopped caring. It's the earliest Mars warning signal of romantic
dissatisfaction, and very little time will elapse between such a signal and
the final goodbye wave from this woman.
Aries and Sag are both Fire Signs, and fire attracts nearby fire, simply by a
spark leaping from one flame to another, sometimes many feet through the air,
let alone across a room. Therefore, the Sagittarian man will be drawn to the
Aries woman almost from the first time they meet, for the purpose of either love
or friendship. Being influenced by the 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern, their natal Suns
are trined, and so they are, in a word - sympatico. It might be better if he aims
for friendship, instead of love, if he isn't quite yet ready to settle down to being
and laughs - but
popcorn in the usher's face as she left the theatre. (As I've said elsewhere
in this book, Aries anger is never discriminatory.)
One thing to be said in defense of a typical male Archer is that, if he's
tempted to succumb to the charms of a new love, he's as likely as the Aries woman
to confess it almost immediately. Basically the Jupiter-ruled male is both
sincere and honest. Neither of these two will ever carry on a long-term deception.
Admittedly, with an Aries girl, he'd be better off not being quite so truthful.
He shouldn't feel obliged to report to her every single wink he receives from
the predatory females who abound these days, urged as they continually are
from so many directions to be sure they aren't deprived of their share of multiple
sexual adventures, with no rules to the game except variety. The Mars woman's
imagination supplies her with more than enough images of infidelity, without
his adding the burden of meaningless winks to her feelings, and to theirrelationship.
It seems strange for a girl with such apparent self-confidence, who is so
openly independent, to be so emotionally vulnerable. But she is, and she suffers
greatly through her inner fear of being hurt or deceived in love. Aries is a masculine
sign, and so the girl Ram is never quite certain of her femininity. This
makes her secretly believe that even women who are clearly less intelligent and
less attractive than she, are nevertheless more desirable to the man she loves, if
for no other reason than their outward feminine manners. Wondering about a
thing like this can be an indescribable private torture. Yet, unfortunately, her
outbursts of jealousy will often receive little real sympathy or compassion from
an Archer, who places a high value on personal freedom and mutual trust between
two people in love.
Such an attitude is all well and good, but if he doesn't train himself to be
somewhat more gentle with this woman's basic nature, and try to handle her
hidden fears with more tender concern - being willing to talk things over with
her now and then, to ease her mind - he'll lose her more quickly than he found
her. And the emptiness she leaves in his heart may not be as easy as he thinks
to fill. There's always a terrible feeling of loneliness on both sides when a man
and woman whose natal Suns are trined, and who truly loved each other, separate.
If the feeling they thought was love was only friendship, and was, therefore,
inaccurately defined by them from the beginning, the parting will be less
painful - and they may even be friends again later. But not if they deeply
loved. The pain is too great, then, to transmute former affection into a casual
If mutual trust can be established between them, from the start, an Aries
girl has an excellent chance for emotional harmony with a Sagittarian man, and
he with her. Many Archers are sexually stable and reliable, and with those who
are, love between these two can be eternally exciting and always stimulating -
emotions which, in an odd sort of way, bring peace and contentment to the
hearts of those born under Fire Signs. Peace and contentment within, you see,
are not achieved in exactly the same manner by everyone.
Both these lovers are optimistic, open-hearted, warm and friendly. They're
also both visionaries, but his visions are more practical, since Sagittarius, unlike
Aries, has the prophetic ability to foresee the outcome of his dreams from their
inception, as well as the self-honesty to separate them from mere fantasies,
based on delusion. Although they're both expert at tossing pie-in-the-sky, his
pies are seldom half-baked.
When this man and woman fall in love, the blend of her Mars enthusiasm
with his Jupiter daring, gives them an insurance against boredom. Love seldom
grows cold between two people who share a mutual excitement for new ideas,
and an eternal youthfulness of spirit. They'll probably even vote alike, because
it's an extremely exceptional Ram or Archer who isn't politically liberal. There
are occasional conservatives born under both Sun Signs, of course, although the
odds are that a Sag more than Aries will lean slightly to the Right. Even so, the
rare conservative Sagittarian will be motivated by political idealism. Since they
both feel strongly about the burning issues of the day, this is more important
than it may seem as a contributing factor to their compatibility.
It's only fair to warn the Aries girl that a Sagittarian man is more likely to
remain a bachelor than any other Sun Sign, except Virgo and Aquarius. His affectionate,
impulsive nature (very much like her own) allows him to slide into a
romance easily, and he can be precipitated by her Mars force into a commitment
he's not ready to keep. Since most Archers refuse to lie at the altar, broken engagements
and disappearing grooms are not uncommon with this Sun Sign.
They're not cruel - just honest. I know one Sagittarian man who's been promising
to marry a charming widow for more years than either of them can remember.
She's still waiting, with Cancerian tenacity. If she were an Aries, she'd tellhim to go dunk his donuts in someone else's coffee, lock her door and change her
GIRL:Darling, you do love me, don't you?
You don't know how I feel by now?
(or perhaps ...)(hurt and angry): How can you ask me a ridiculous question like that?
GIRL: DOyou really love me? Do you really?
(Showering her immediately with passionate kisses.)
Later, she'll accuse him of emotional breach of promise, but she didn't listen
carefully. He didn't lie to her. Sagittarians never lie. Didn't you know
Normally, this man is not the domestic type. Look at the way he treats his
own family - casually. And the way he loves his own relatives - from a distance.
But the girl Ram isn't tied down to the heart either, so she won't mind
his wandering, as long as he takes her with him. If she gives him miles of rope
and lets him know that she, too, believes in personal freedom, the Archer can be
a generous and stimulating partner, in or out of wedlock. She should learn to
love animals, because sooner or later, this man will bring home a dog or a horse.
If they live in a small apartment, let's hope it's a dog.
He may spend lots of time at the stables, in the woods, hiking or camping -
involving himself in sports as a participant or spectator - or involving himself
in the theatre as a participant or spectator. The more intellectual type of
Archer will substitute books and philosophy for nature, sports or the stage, but
whatever, his interests will frequently be outside the home. It doesn't mean he
isn't in love with her, and the Aries girl must realize that, if she wants to hold
him for keeps.
Their sexual adjustment is almost automatic. Both of them are deeply affectionate,
and passion is never lacking, since they're both Fire Signs. His approach
to physical lovemaking may be slightly more casual and detached than
hers, and not quite so intense, but it will be no less sincere, and certainly no less
idealistic. Each is capable of a warm response, which can make their intimacies
wonderfully fulfilling, although perhaps not completely free of sexual selfishness
(one of the most common causes of sexual disharmony). They may both have to
learn that real happiness comes from an inner need to
The lesson shouldn't be too difficult, because the sense of giving is strong in
both their natures. Since they're also mentally and emotionally well mated, the
physical relationship between them (barring jealousy and unfaithfulness) can be
ideal in every sense.
She won't like it when he sometimes makes promises he can't keep, for Archers
often impulsively reach out farther than their arms can stretch. She may
explode into angry tears when he carelessly blurts out an unpleasant truth,
without regard for her sensitive feelings. And she could become annoyed with
his clumsy attempts at humor, which can be poorly timed. Sagittarians are half
clown, you know, and the antics of clowns are never subtle. She's stuck withEmmett Kelly, so why not accept his peanuts and cotton candy, laugh and enjoy
give makes give
flower makes flower
makes weed clean makes clean
doubting makes doubting- greed makes greed- and weed- dust makes dust- and trust makes trust
The Aries woman in love with an Archer, who repeats that last line over and
over again when her heart is troubled, will discover that it's truly a miracle mantra
that will bring her more reasons to rejoice than to cry. For truth makestruth, you see - and lie makes lie.
it? Although he may occasionally resent her claims on his freedom and her demands
on his time, he'll admire her bright mind and respect her independence.
As for the possibility that his Jupiter tendency to promiscuity will ignite
her Mars jealousy, don't overlook the Archer's strong sense of honor and personal
integrity. He'll behave the way he's expected and trusted to behave. There's
an old metaphysical formula, so magical, it works wonders. A friend of mine,
Hank Fort, once wrote a song, with lyrics that sum up this infallible Universal
Law, and they say, in p a r t . . .What do you think, sweetheart? I don't see how you can wonder.love - not to be loved.
telephone number. Sudden action like this often brings an Archer to his senses,
if he really loves the woman. If he doesn't, she has only herself to blame. He
probably never actually told her he loved her. Sagittarian men are usually quite
careful not to say "I love you," unless they mean it, and they have plenty of
dodgy verbal tricks to get out of it, without arousing suspicion. Here are a couple
that every red-blooded male Archer has used, at one time or another. Pay
close attention to the exact words.He may have enjoyed the four-in-a-bed scene in the AmericanBob and Carol and Ted and Alice, and accepted it all in a spirit of funshe's the one who walked out on the scene, and tossed her buttered