A romantic involvement with a Taurus man is sure to be an educational experience
for the Aries female. She thinks immovable objects (him) are simply things
to kick aside, leap over or melt with the irresistible force of Mars heat (hers).
Not this one.
She shoves - he sits. She pushes - he pouts. She demands - he digs in.
Then, look out. The next step could be: she weeps - he walks. Away, that is -
for keeps. But Bulls and Rams can do other things together. Like, if she
smiles - he'll soften. If she coaxes - he'll cuddle. If she bear-hugs - he'll
beam. You'll notice it's always she who initiates the first move between them
of any kind.
They may quarrel about money (her extravagance - his economy), or lock
horns over the Aries need for excitement, and the Taurus need for peace and
quiet. But with some effort at adjusting to each other's different metabolisms
and personal mannerisms, this man and woman can find a rare and very cozy
Since she demands, and requires (both), an abnormal amount of freedom,
it's a fortunate thing the Bull is not unduly jealous. He's not jealous, but he is
very possessive. The difference between these two qualities can be found in the
dictionary - or through living with each other.
They should carefully check Webster, and take it from there.
Yes, a Taurus man is stubborn, there's no denying this astrological fact. His
sometimes blind, unreasonable bull-headedness can be unpleasantly aroused, if
an Aries girl wants him to pick daisies with her when he wants to snooze - if she
subjects him to her friends, when he wants to quietly read - (at other times,
he'll be happy to entertain them all with his marvelous humor) - or if she insists
on spending more than he earns, faster than he doesn't earn it. Yet a wellloved
Bull will bear up under a great deal of "sound and fury, signifying nothing"
but noise and nonsense, with tranquil aplomb. Normally, he'll take it with
an unruffled good nature when she fights with his boss or his relatives, howlswith a toothache, loses her engagement ring in the mashed potatoes at a restauHe cares, even if he can't quiteany kind of energy
rant, and doesn't realize it until after they've left, the place is closed and the
garbage truck has already done its ruthless chop-chop thing.
A contented Taurus man will patiently put up with most Aries misguided
missiles of enthusiasm unless he's pressed too hard, and too often. Then, he's
likely to erupt into the infrequent but ever latent and smoldering Taurean anger.
Rams who have never been exposed to the Bull's anger should not press
their luck. And that happens to be a most serious astrological warning, in no
way intended to be humorous.
If he's handled gently, with a decent amount of consideration for his own
feelings, this man will stick by the girl Ram he loves through the darkest storms,
like a steady rock of solid love, covering the miseries of her mistakes with a
warm, protective blanket of sheer devotion. It's rather like coming home, all
safe and secure, from a long journey through a frightening nightmare of rejection,
where no one really cares or understands.
understand her temporary emotional traumas. And he'll usually back up his
caring with a dependable bank account, and a leakless roof over her head (not to
mention a well-stocked refrigerator), to the very best of his steady ability, while
he builds slowly and surely for an even more secure, and even luxurious, future.
In the average love affair or marital relationship between the Bull and the
Aries woman, she'll provide the ideas and the energy while he provides the stability
and security. This applies to both the financial and the sexual aspects of
their cooperative venture.
Although Taurus men are as practical about love as they are about everything
else, they're also deeply affectionate, quietly romantic and deeply sentimental.
The Aries woman who's grown into the mistaken impression that her
usually undemonstrative Taurus lover or husband doesn't really love her anymore
will never fail to be periodically surprised by receiving an extravagant Valentine,
or other card, on some unexpected holiday, which expresses the shy
Taurean feelings tenderly and eloquently, in the words of the verse.
Still, there could be some problems concerning the physical sharing of their
love, after the first magnetic attraction of Male-Positive and Female-Negative
polarity loses its novelty. Sex is, to the Aries woman, a form of release - mental,
emotional, physical and spiritual. It's the visible manifestation of the Mars
Faith and Strength combined, in a powerful urge of self-expression. To her, sexual
activity justifies itself as a thrilling fantasy, which could, in some miraculous
way, known only to her, make every dream she's ever dreamed come true. Sex
is, to the Taurus man, a normal and natural function, for the purpose of achieving
two very tangible and sensible results - the satisfaction of sensual and erotic
flesh needs - and children. A family.
She's compelled to release the Mars sexual energy, even if it doesn't result
in much of anything, except frustration - and imaginative romancing is absolutely
essential to her. He doesn't see the sense in releasing
unless its purpose is to produce something practical and useful - and the typical
Taurean does not regard daydreams as either essential or productive. Consequently,
the girl Ram may gradually and eventually become impatient with
her Bull's desire for frankly sensual and somewhat unimaginative lovemaking -
and he may (at a relatively slower rate of speed) become honestly puzzled by the
trip to the stars she feels must be synonymous with passion, in private, wistfully
wishing he could take her there but sensing they might get lost, because he's uncertain
of the route . . . . and after all, there's no map to guide him. A harmonious
relationship between their mutual Suns, Moons and Ascendents will miracle
away these differences in their natures, and allow the two of them to achieve a
rich fulfillment through their sexual union, as well as in every other facet of
their togetherness.However, with a tense aspect between their natal Luminaries and/or Ascendents, it may be difficult for the Aries female to keep the Bull in her pasture,
unless she makes a constant and conscious effort to please him, an unselfish
urge that does not come naturally to the typical Arian. It takes mountains of
hurt and resentment to make a Taurus man leave a woman he's once loved (or
permit her to leave his possessive domain), but once he goes, he is gone. Permanently.
A little tenderness today can prevent a lot of tears tomorrow.
Despite the many arguments these two are almost destined to have in the
area of both mutual and individual finances, she'll soon learn a touching truth
about her Taurus man's attitude toward money, which is so vastly different
from her own (assuming they're both typical of their Sun Signs, and their birth
charts don't confuse matters with a variety of planetary positions that create the
exceptions that prove the astrological rules). In the beginning, she'll think he's
an outright tightwad, and he'll think she's as improvident and careless with cash
as they make females (he believes they're all made, more or less, in a similar extravagant
mold). Gradually, however, his great Bull's heart will be moved, when
he slowly comprehends that her carelessness with cash is nearly always motivated
by impulsive generosity. He'll see that, although she spends a good deal of
money on herself (Aries represents the first astrological house; therefore, all
Rams are exceptionally concerned with their physical appearance), she spends
even more through her gestures of giving, much in the sense that a child gives,
with a feeling of sheer delight in pleasing others and receiving the reward of
their happy smiles. He'll probably relax his attitude somewhat then, regarding
his initial disapproval of her wild and carefree spending. In fact, after their relationship
has had time to solidify into a permanent pattern, her spontaneous
generosity may even cause him to love her more.
At the same time he's learning to adapt to her financial looseness, even affectionately,
she will be discovering that he's not such a miser as she first
thought him to be. She'll realize that his caution stems from his uncontrollable
need to be sure of tomorrow's security, his deep-seated fear of being suddenly
thrown out into the street and forced to rely upon the charity of others or the
government, which would kill his proud spirit of self-sufficiency. And she'll see
that, once her stubborn, but kind-hearted, steadfast and loyal Bull knows their
future is reasonably insured (not excessively, as is the case with the typical Crab
or Goat), he's genuinely generous. Barring an afflicted Moon or Ascendent in
Earth or Water elements, he'll be as tickled as she to give gifts to their friends
and families, and lend money to those who need it, without pressing them for repayment
- as long as his basic nest egg for tomorrow is left untouched, the
amount of which, of course, varies with each individual Bull. But the typical
Taurus male won't take huge chances with his security. If his Aries woman tries
to convince him that they should move into a better apartment or house, and
trust a promise someone made to them regarding future paychecks, commissions
or bonuses, to make up the difference in rent or mortgage payments, she's
engaged in a futile endeavor. The Bull won't move an inch until he's sure he can
handle the extra burden. To Taurus there's never been a promise since the
world began that's been made of anything but talk and thin air - both materials
he's found to be totally unreliable for the purpose of building anything concrete
and lasting. Yet, when push comes to shove (an excellent descriptive phrase to
use with Taurus) this man will share half of whatever he has with anyone whose
real need he's been made aware of, most especially his family, friends..........and
the woman he loves.
There may be times when the Bull's stubbornness seems like the coldest
kind of cruelty to an Aries girl. For example, he may say something unkind to
her in public, when she's been frisking too much for his taste and acting up in
general, and it will cut her to the quick. She'll try to force him to apologize,openly or at least to admit he didn't mean it (which he didn't, and she knows it),
while he sullenly refuses to grant her the verbal solace and reassurance she's
seeking (or, rather, demanding). As she continues first to command, then finally
to plead with him to retract his statement, he'll grow even more silent and removed,
like a chunk of marble, unseeing, unhearing, unfeeling - apparently.
Then she'll impulsively run out, angrily weeping, into the night. He's the
coldest, cruelest man she's ever known, and it's all over between them. He can't
do that to her. A few blocks down the street (maybe twenty or more, depending
on the extent of the adrenalin she was generating when she stormed out of the
place where she left him) - she sees a coffee shop, and wanders inside, to sit by
herself, crying all over her donuts, and fiercely hating him until their favorite
song hits her ears, from the ceiling speakers, reminding her of what she's
lost by walking out on him. So, she pays her check, leaves hastily and ends up
standing on a street corner, forlorn and alone, trying to hail a taxi to take her
home - sorry, at last - and now really frightened. It's late, there are no taxis
anywhere, and she has to walk home, giving her time to think over a lot of things
as she hurries down streets that seem unusually quiet and deserted.
But... who is that there in the shadows, leaning calmly against the building
across the way, waiting patiently for her? It's him. He's still there. She
feels a surge of happiness as she runs across the street into his safe arms. He
didn't go away and leave her after all. It's all right again. No, he didn't go
away - this time. He'll probably still be there, patiently waiting for her after
the next fiery, emotional, farewell scene too. But, someday
If she's wise, she'll count her blessings before it's too late.She's jealous. He's possessive.