Friday, November 5, 2010

GEMINI WOMAN AND ARIES MAN

Unless they met in high school, and were married shortly thereafter (which does
happen rather frequently with these two Sun Signs, since they're both always in
such a hurry), an Aries man may fiercely resent his Gemini girl's past love life,
which could have been, by normal standards, somewhat extensive. It's almost
sure to include, if not a couple of ex-husbands, at the very least, half a dozen
broken engagements or a few flickering old flames. All Geminis should be wary
of early marriage, unless they were born when the Moon or Ascendent was in
Capricorn, Virgo, Cancer or Taurus.
It's not that she's fickle or promiscuous, but this girl may run through a
long list of pitchers while she's playing the field, before she finds one who can
bat her average. Yes, I know that batters don't pitch, and pitchers don't bat, ordinarily
- but any man who can't do at least two things equally well, preferably
more, and also preferably both at once, is likely to strike out with her.
Of course, we know that could never happen to an Aries man, since he can
do everything and anything better than anyone else, at any time, so I suppose
it's just an academic discussion, but it wouldn't hurt for him to remember it
anyway.
All her life this woman has thought it was the house at the top of the hill
that had golden windows. She keeps climbing all the way up there, only to look
below, from the summit, and discover the house at the bottom of the hill is the
one with golden windows, after all. So she slides back down, and re-discovers
that the house at the bottom has only ordinary windows, as she first had
thought, then looks up to see the golden windows shining once more at the top
of the hill, decides she's been wrong, and trudges back up the hill again to another
disappointment. Why are those golden windows so elusive? It can be
spiritually exhausting, all that climbing up, and sliding back down, and climbing
back up, until she learns that the reflection of the Sun is only an illusion - not
real at all - and relative, depending upon the time of day and one's location at
any given moment.
There may be times when a Gemini girl thinks an old love was really the
one with golden possibilities, but before she finds out that this, too, is an illusion,
she will have lost the Aries man, whether she left him standing alone at the
top or at the bottom of the hill. A Ram will never sympathize with his woman's
nostalgia over yesterday's romances, even though he may go out under a toadstool,
and light a candle to an old flame every spring, on Groundhog Day, himself.
Remember the Aries self-centeredness. He can do it. She can't. Why?
Because he knows
not so sure about
Their relationship may have a few other pitfalls along with it's undeniable
delights - like a possible lack of will power and stability. Rams possess simply
oodles of drive and energy, but sticking to things they start is not one of their
strong points. Since a man subconsciously depends on his woman to supply
what he lacks, he may be leaning on a feather in the breeze when he leans on a
Gemini girl. Will power and dependability are not her major talents either (unless
her Moon or Ascendent, as just mentioned, happens to be in Cancer, or in
an Earth Sign - and naturally, the same is true of him). Consequently, these
two (these three or four) can send up a lot of flares that keep sputtering out, as
each one indulges the other's weaknesses of procrastination and quick boredom.
This is one man who probably won't insist that his Gemini woman stay
home to sweep the hearth, wearing a calico apron and watering the vegetable
garden. He'll probably realize he can use her versatile viewpoints and original
thinking in his business life or career, so it's common to find this couple working
together, after marriage, as well as before. They usually make a crackerjack
team. He knows exactly what he wants - and she has plenty of ideas about how
to help him get it. Besides, he can watch her more closely if she's with him all
day. It eliminates his worry about the milk man, the cleaner, the grocer, and the
handsome chap who runs the elevator in their apartment building. Her Mercurial
proclivity for harmless (usually) flirting adds plenty of fuel to the fires of
Aries jealousy, and anything that might keep such Mars sparks under control is
desirable. A survey to determine how many Aries men eventually suggest that
their wives work as their secretaries, or full partners, might prove astrologically
interesting. On the other hand, these lovers often meet on the job. The same
kinds of occupation and career interest them both, so it's only natural that they
may bump into each other in some creative field or profession that offers excitement
and challenge.
You'll never see an Aries man and a Gemini woman, however long they've
been married, sitting at a restaurant table reading the paper, or staring at the
other customers, in silence, ignoring each other, the way so many couples unfortunately
do after the first flush of romance has become a little softer. Aries and
Gemini will always have something to say to each other - sometimes too much.
Conversation, in any case, is not likely to lag between them. Most of the time,
their verbal communication will consist of stimulating and scintillating exchanges,
but when she touches a raw nerve in his sensitive Mars ego with her
talent for hitting the satirical mark, it could turn into a verbal contest that could
leave some pretty deep wounds. Happily however, these two are inclined to forgive
and forget injuries as quickly as they tend to inflict them.
Strangely, this love relationship is sometimes harder on others than it is on
the man and woman themselves. The more sincerely and deeply they're in love,
the more likely it is that their friends, neighbors or relatives, at some time, however
rarely, will suffer from this Air-Fanning-Fire romance. Now and then, a
Gemini woman will imagine all sorts of things about people that are, quite simply,
untrue. She'll convince herself that a particular dialogue took place with
another person, and report it to her Aries lover or husband, in words that
haven't the slightest connection with reality, or with the words that were actually
spoken. (Her Mercury imagination, you see, fills in the dull or uninteresting
gaps with more creative phraseology.)
Loving her as intensely as only a Ram can love, he could take furious offense
at these slightly exaggerated insults to his lady fair, and direct his Mars
anger, full force, toward the shocked person he's been falsely led to believe has
treated her so shabbily. (Aries men are fiercely loyal to their friends and relatives,
and especially to their mates.)
Later, her honest Twin will trouble her conscience by softly, yet insistently,
reminding her that things didn't quite occur as she colorfully described them to
her Ram. If she then levels with him, he should control his Mars fireworks of
outrage, and appreciate her attempt to separate reality from imagination, with
tenderness. For the Gemini woman is made of fragile material. She's not, like
him, protected on her journey through Life by the fierce warrior Mars - only by
the unpredictable magician Mercury, who often hides from her, just when a girl
most needs her ruling planet's wisdom.
Her heart contains so many different chords of haunting music. She's a did - his broken top, his broken dreamsreal. They may each visit on another's privateNosign of the other.
symphony of memories, made of loveliness and light, ugliness and shadow, making
the more direct Aries man who loves her sometimes wonder, "Who is she -
this intimate and familiar stranger? Who is she . . . and what is she?"
Who is she . . . ? Whichever Twin leads the way, at any given moment.
What is she? She's the bunch of marigolds in a sky blue bowl, on her teacher's
desk, in the third grade the circus parade she once watched, when the
clown threw a pretzel to her, and she caught it joyfully she's hayrides and
hurricanes her first pair of black patent leather Mary Janes, a summer
storm in the woods, at scout camp, that made the pine trees smell as fragrant as
hyacinths a field of purple heather she sat in once, for hours, that transported
her all the way to Scotland, where she was the Lady of the Lake
and also the lonely Evangeline the small, lost bird she fed, until it
was strong enough to fly, when she was five. These things are what she is. All
this.
And so, while the Gemini girl-woman must exercise a certain amount of discipline
over her imagination, if she expects to achieve harmony with the
straightforward, honest Ram she loves, she must be careful not to restrict it entirely,
because it's the quality that makes her seem so exquisitely feminine to
him. Children, too, possess vivid imaginations, and he thinks of her, this man,
more often than she knows, as a little girl who needs his loving protection. Except,
of course, when she shatters his image of her helplessness by beating him
at mental musical chairs, King's X, tic-tac-toe, and so forth. Some Gemini females
can be, when they choose, intellectual terrors, their speech as sharp as a
knife, their mental acumen nothing less than brilliant - which isn't the most
soothing balm for a male Ram's masculine self-confidence. But then, there's
also the bunch of marigolds in the sky blue bowl....
As for him, he's made, not just from the rough-hewn robes of raw courage,
tied with the crimson cord of bravado - his Ram's horns curl around the memories
of his Lancelot days, the time he first swam, in water way over his head,
when he couldn't swim - but he
. . . and the nightmares with no shape or form, from a buried, now forgotten
childhood fear . . . the Christmas when Santa forgot the puppy on his list... the
sky rockets, Roman fountains and spit-devils he ignited, when he was nine, on
Independence Day . . . the first time he ever saw a horse, and smelled the intoxicating
odors of a barn . . . the way he felt when he first knew how holy a silent
night could be, sleeping alone, beneath countless glittering stars that sang to
him a remembered melody no one else could hear.
They are so many things, this man - this woman. Mostly, they are the
sometimes inhabitants of a land, a kingdom they discovered by themselves,
where everything is beautiful... but lonely . . . needing other eyes to see it too,
for only thus may it be recognized as
worlds, but if the mutual invitation so wistfully extended, unspoken . . . is
rejected then each may retreat into his or her kingdom, more and more often,
leaving the other regretfully behind. These lovers should never permit such
a retreat to occur, because the stars and planets have designed their make-believe
lands so very much alike, they're sure to be happier when they dance
through each other's dreams, than when one stands forlornly before the
Trespassing
Sexually, this man and woman will believe themselves to be ideally mated,
in the beginning. The Ram dreams of arriving in the garden of love on a flying
carpet of adventure, straight out of the Arabian Nights (or the Age of Chivalry,
either one), and the Gemini female will play her role in his dream-drama to perfection.
She'll not only go along with the game, but she'll think up enough new The Planets, on cassette or stereo, may help her sense his romanticcould be - if they're tenderly allowed to take form
twists to keep him fascinated far beyond the honeymoon. No one can make an
ordinary bed seem as much like Sultan's harem as a Gemini woman, which is
richly satisfying to an Aries man, who wants his mate to be the epitome of Woman.
With her, he'll never know who awaits him at night in the privacy of the
boudoir. It could be Cleopatra, George Sand, Mata Hari, Rebecca of Sunnybrook
Farm, Lady Hamilton or Fanny Brice. For a while it will excite him, until
he starts to look around in the closet and under the pillows for "the sensuous
woman."
His own sexual expression is direct and intense. Hers is somewhat more
elusive and complicated. True, he enjoys approaching their lovemaking on a
path of imaginative romance, but he expects to quench his thirst in a stream of
pure, honest passion, when he arrives at his destination. There's often an air of
the intangible in her attitude toward physical love, to the extent that he may accuse
her of being somewhere else during their intimate moments, and she could
resent his masculine intrusion into what, to her, is always a sacred place - her
mind.
This man needs daydreams in association with sexual union, but there's a
time and place for them, and to him, the last act of their love drama is not the
proper place. He believes, like George M. Cohan, that the finale of anything (if
it expects to receive an encore) should include a stirring version of "The Stars
and Stripes Forever." Listening to Ram Andre Previn's full orchestral recording
of Hoist's
pace. The section titled "Mars" will deliver the message profoundly, up to and
including the violent percussion emphasis at the very close of that passage, that
symbolizes the rhythms of his ruling planet with startling lucidity. It's an Aries
sex education - and like everything else in the world, it's more beautifully
learned with a musical background.
He may sometimes feel she's searching for something that never existed,
and fail to realize that with a shade more gentleness from him, she might be able
to transmute her vivid imaginings into equally lovely realities. Gemini images
flash a true picture of what
and shape. It's her dual consciousness that may distort the communication.
But love can keep those Mercury circuits free of negative vibrations. Love can
do anything - literally, anything.
This eternally youthful man and woman could hear the same music together,
and follow the same distant drummer, for many happy years . . . if she understands
that his jealousies and petulant angers stem from his Aries emotional
vulnerabilities and if he respects her love affair with her other Twin Self.
It may sometimes lead her into places she runs to more swiftly than he can follow,
but she'll return, refreshed, and ready to race with him toward new horizons.
He's so bright and brave, so friendly, open and enthusiastic. She's so utterly
feminine, charming, versatile and spontaneous. If only they don't try to
change each other, they can remain boy and girl forever. And children are
the luckiest people in the Universe.
his nostalgia is innocent and will never lead anywhere. He'shers. (Aries hidden insecurity.)

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