Friday, November 5, 2010

SAGITTARIUS WOMAN AND VIRGO MAN



She asked where he lived. "Second to the right," Peter
said, "and straight on till morning."
"What a funny address!"
Peter had a sinking. For the first time he felt that perhaps
it was a funny address. "No, it isn't," he said.
Well, hurray and hallelujah! Give that Virgo man with the peculiar address a
hearty handshake and a bear hug! He's off to a racing start with the half-Horse,
half-Human female Centaur, for whose love and admiration he's willing to give
up his treasured loner's existence. For her, he'll even sacrifice his bachelor pad's
peace and quiet. But for her (or for anyone else) he should never sacrifice his
sense of personal dignity and self-confidence, especially not his self-respect. A
man has a million uses for self-respect, so it's not sensible to allow even the
woman he adores to rob him of it.
You'll notice that at first he hesitated, nearly submitting to the sinking feeling
of inadequacy a bright and cheerful but distressingly candid and forthright
girl Archer can unthinkingly instill in a Virgo man's solar plexus (which, if he's
not careful, can develop into an annoying attack of Virgo indigestion). But our
hero triumphed over the impending danger of inferiority, the challenging threat
to his masculinity. Never mind her frank (or amused) opinions and comments
about his perfectly proper address. Never mind what she thinks of his apartment,
his socks, his ears, his hair, his nose, his job, his careful and modest
dreams, his car - his habit of buying Ivory soap by the case, or his medicine
chest, well stocked with aids to "gentle elimination." She thinks his address is
funny? He'll tell her a thing or two. And so, he speaks right up to her, firmly
and sternly - "No, it isn't. It is not a funny address."
That's the first thing he tells her. The second thing is that she should learn
to close her mouth before she speaks, and keep it closed while she's analyzing
what she was about to say - and if she thinks it over carefully, with a little consideration
and forethought, she might decide not to open it at all - until she has
something nice and kind to say to him. Surprisingly, she'll probably love it. Actually,
this girl is searching for a firm but tender man, who will keep her in her
place - as long as he doesn't keep her there by sitting on her puppy-dog friendliness,
optimistic enthusiasms and fiery ideals. It's an undeniably delicate task,
but the Virgo man who loves her is gifted with the art of delicate diplomacy, and
he just may be able to handle it. He possesses an almost mystical talent for finessing
things through to a smooth finish.
Happily, he's solved one problem between them in their tense 4-10 Sun
Sign Pattern relationship, already. He's trained her to soften the tips of her Jupiter
arrows a bit, and not pull so hard on the bow. He's made her see that her
thoughtless remarks can really hurt - and with Virgo's curious ability to be
sweetly polite, even while scolding, he's made her realize that he does comprehend
her lack of malicious intent, her basic good will and naivete. She may bequite sincerely, moved to tears. She's wanted and needed someone to understand
her real self for the longest, longest time, someone who won't judge her
harshly for just being true to how she feels - and spontaneous when she has
something to express. Therefore, instead of starting a quarrel between them,
her Virgo lover or husband's firmness may have the opposite effect of bringing
them closer together than they were before. Beautiful. Bravos and posies.
Good for him, and good for her. Now, the next problem. (You surely didn't expect
them to be fated to struggle with just one problem, did you? After all,
their natal Suns are squared, remember.)
Her practical jokes. Sagittarians of both sexes are absolutely addicted to
puns and practical jokes. She'll think it's hilarious as puns go, that a Connecticut
town, in celebration of ERA's birth, officially changed the description of a
public occupation as "building personholes," avoiding discreetly the use of the
no-no word "man." (Virgo might think that one is pretty funny himself.) Then
he'll ask her what time the mailperson is due, because he wants to post a letter,
she'll ask him if he doesn't mean "personperson," he'll tell her that "mail" isn't
"male," and she'll say it doesn't matter how it's spelled - he'll ask her how she
would know, since she's such a dreadfully poor speller herself, and they'll crack
up laughing together. One of the nicest things about Sag is that she's a genuine
good sport, and is never up-tight about enjoying a joke on herself. Most Sagittarians
can take it as cheerfully as they dish it out. And he must admit that's a
shining virtue, only too rare in this dreary world. All right, we've covered her
penchant for puns, and he handled that problem quite nicely too, don't you
think? With just the right amount of good humor and careless teasing, adding a
pinch of her own kind of truth that stings. And she laughed. She was pleased,
she didn't pout, and they're still friends. The practical jokes may be a little
tougher.
Excuse me. You'll NEVER BELIEVE what just happened! I've been writing
this book for a little over nine months now (it takes nine months to create a
human child or a brain child, a tad longer for elephants) and this is the FIRST
TIME EVER that my IBM typewriter ribbon ran out at precisely the exact
same second the IBM correctional tape ran out! Isn't that one for the Guinness
book? The Virgos reading this are now busily calculating the percentage possibilities
of such a double fade-out. The Archers will want to know if I'm making
it up to be funny, or if I'm being honest. Sag has a thing about integrity. I am
not making it up, and I'm not trying to be funny. It's true. It happened, and I
have a witness. So there. I'm either approaching the end of this book, or the
end of my Virgo-like cool. There are unmistakable signs and I do hope the
former occurs before the latter. (No, I'm not a Virgo, I'm Aries, but Vulcan is,
I'm sure, conjunct my natal Sun. I'll let you know when they discover it (Vulcan)
and are able to calculate its orbiting movements.) Now back to the Sag
practical jokes, with which the Virgo man will have to contend sooner or later in
their relationship.
As briefly as possible, I'll give him a sample of how gigantic a Sagittariantype
practical joke can be. I mean, some of them are harmless little bits of fun
and foolishness, but since Jupiter, the ruler of Sag, is the planet associated with
expansion, an occasional Archer prank can get a little out of hand, so to speak.
Briefly, then, there is this man named Steven Masover, who is enrolled in college
at Berkeley (California) in pursuit of a higher degree in physics (on a scholarship,
and he was also Valedictorian of his high school graduation class). Steven's
Sag-type caper, which news stories referred to as a "Robin Hood prank"
(Robin Hood has a tight affinity with all Archers), was to hold up a bank, with
an unloaded gun and a fake bomb, making off with $78,000 in cash. His defense
was that he had no intention of stealing the money, he had only borrowed it to,invest it in colonies in outer space, as a way for Earthlings to escape pollution
and overpopulation, and planned to pay back every penny in 20-odd years or so.
(Pollution, Love Signs can't help Steven solve, but the overpopulation problem
is tackled in A Time to Embrace, in the back of this book.) Masover was acquitted
by the jury (in a Jupiter-type stroke of pure luck) because the D.A. couldn't
prove he "intended to deprive the bank of the cash permanently" (a prerequisite
for stealing) although the latter commented that he felt "spending the money
on space stations would amount to the same thing as depriving the bank of it
permanently, using common [Virgo] horse sense." Or Sagittarian horse sense.
Or whatever. The big fear now is that the "flukey" acquittal of the perpetrator
of this flakey but eloquent practical joke will encourage other "Robin Hood robberies."
The fear is groundless. Real criminals don't have the kind of genius
and imagination to come up with that sort of laden-with-hidden-truth rationale
of invisible but powerful integrity. However, it certainly may encourage other
Sag practical jokers, heaven help us all.
The Virgo man may wonder why I chose a male example of a practical joker
to warn him about his female Archer's playful, filly foibles. I had an excellent
reason. I wished to emphasize to the Virgo man that, while he was born under a
"feminine" Sun Sign, and is also actually ruled by the feminine planet Vulcan
(see Virgo-Virgo chapter), which doesn't mean that he's a sissy (Virgo Elliot
Gould, a sissy?), only sensitive and perceptive - his girl Archer was born under
a masculine Sun Sign, and is also guided (puns, truth arrows, integrity, practical
joking and all) by the masculine planet, Jupiter. Double feminine influence versus
double masculine influence, adding up to a clear conclusion. He was absolutely
right to tell her a thing or two when she made fun of his address, because
he's going to have to keep a firm rein on this lady Centaur, or she'll kick over the
traces. As we've already proven, she'll enjoy it secretly more than she resents it,
if the rein is held in loving and kind, considerate hands, which it surely will be
with a Virgo man who really loves her.
With his double feminine influence, of gentle wisdom, he'll be able to perceive
that this girl-woman is a trusting, vulnerable creature, for all of her double
masculine macha, and she doesn't win every race. She's stumbled and fallen
more times than she can bear to remember, trusting people who hurt her and let
her down, just when she needed them most. He'll soothe her painful memories
with his affectionate concern, and help her analyze why she should forget them,
now that there are only the old scars to remind her - assure her the scars will
disappear sooner if she looks to the future, not to the past. Then he'll promise
her that he'll never make her sorry she had faith in him, if he can possibly help
it - and he'll mean it. She'll look into his clear, quiet Virgo eyes (that twinkle
with the silvery streaks of his foster ruler Mercury when he's happy) and she'll
know he's wholly and completely earnest. She's right. A Virgo never makes a
promise he's not willing to do everything humanly possible to keep. That counts
for a lot, and if anyone realizes it, she does. There's an alarming shortage these
days of honest people, who live from the inside out, not from the outside in. So
many get it backwards, the way to find happiness, like Hiawatha's mittens.
Since she can't stand hypocrites or phonies, she should thank her lucky stars for
the love of her Virgo gentleman (meaning gentle-man). That's something I forgot
to tell him. This girl is lucky. No matter how many times she makes a mistake,
her misjudgments have a way of landing on their feet, and sailing her into
the winner's circle. Knowing this astrological certainty will comfort him when
he's suffering through some of those really huge goofs, caused by her wellmeaning,
impulsive enthusiasm.
The physical closeness they share, if he continues to keep a firm grip on the
reins, and if she doesn't bruise his sensitivity and subconscious need for purity,
has the potential of being as passionate as her Fire Element nature, yet also as
cool and as deep as his "Earthy" desires can make the togetherness between a
man and a woman. There's something of calm and stillness about him that
channels her longings gracefully into the direction of a kind of fulfillment that
makes her know how much more important affection and peace are than winning
all the games in a romantic challenge. The warmth of him beside her is
something she senses she'd be empty without, if they ever allowed their clashing
personalities to cause them to say goodbye. And he knows too, though he may
never express it in words, that the emotional storms they sometimes endure may
leave his spirit weary and tired of trying, but if she ever went away... who else
would awaken him on Christmas morning (as she did their first December together)
wearing holly berries in her hair, breathlessly telling him to look under
the blanket she holds in her arms? (No one.) Peeking out of the blanket were
six black, shiny noses, belonging to six wriggling puppies born to their St. Bernard,
Amelia (for Earhart), the night before, while he slept, at exactly midnight
on Christmas Eve, she told him . . . her eyes shining with glittering stars of excitement
and childlike wonder. Every time he remembers that crisp, cold, winter
morning... the way she'd tucked the holly berries in her hair, like a small
girl, to surprise him . . . the snow frosting her lashes (she'd just come in from
checking the drifts in the yard, to see if they were deep enough to make a snowman
.. they were . . . so they later did).. every time he thinks about the way she
smelled like clean, cold ozone when she kissed his forehead lightly, and merrily
told him to hurry and come downstairs, because she'd made a fire, and couldn't
wait for him to look under the tree to see what the reindeer had left there
he gets that funny lump in his throat he can't swallow. And he knows how
right he is to keep trying to understand this lovable, graceful, funny and vulnerable
. . . bright-eyed and intelligent but awkward girl clown, whose nose always
turns red when she cries.
She gets the same kind of lump in her throat every time she remembers the
morning he shyly brought her a tiny bunch of violets when she was aching inside
from something very personal and sad she didn't even know he was aware of
.. but he was. He handed her the violets so softly, without a single word. What
other man she ever knew would have done that? (No one. Not in quite the
same way.) So what if he's occasionally cranky and cross, a little stuffy about
money? He's a quiet man, of many dimensions and levels of loving. He may
not talk much around others, but they're both Mutable, and he talks a lot with
her . . . telling her things he'd share with no one else, because he knows he can
trust her to keep his confidences, and treat them tenderly. He had to train her
to listen and understand the value of privacy . . . but Sag is super intelligent (Jupiter
ruling the 9th house of higher education) so she learned quickly . . . many
things he taught her. It's only because she's careless and disdainful of detail
that she keeps spelling committment with two "t's" and commited with only
one. Never mind. She can't spell it, but she knows what the word means. It
means the same thing as a promise,doesn't it?Yes it does.
If the Virgo man and his girl clown-philosopher really care, they can turn
their 4-10 square of tension into a gigantic Jupiter-Vulcan trine of steady contentment
over the years, and celebrate Christmas every morning, with one sort
of gift or another.

VIRGO WOMAN AND SAGITTARIUS

He thought of hopping off in a comic sort of way till he was
out of sight of her, and then never going near the spot any
more
To show her that her departure would leave him unmoved,
he skipped up and down the room, playing gaily on his
heartless pipes. She had to run about after him, though it
was rather undignified.
Although Virgo and Sag form the tense and challenging 4-10 Sun Sign Pattern,
we discussed the melodious secret of how these two can successfully conquer the
conflicts of their auric vibes and achieve harmony together in the beginning of
this chapter, which the Centaur and his Virgin should study first, taking care to
read between the lines, before they give their attention to these particular pages.
All they have to do is keep singing their love song in the key of D-flat. And try
not to go off-key. It may take a little practice, but as the New Yorker said to the
tourist asking directions, that's how you get to Carnegie Hall. Practice, practice,
practice! (Of course, you can also get there by making a sharp right turn East,
at the corner of 57th Street and 7th Avenue - but it depends on whether you
plan to be the featured attraction, or just sit in the balcony, as one of the crowd.)
Speaking of directions, such as how to get to Carnegie Hall - or anywhere
else - the Virgo girl will probably prefer to reach her destination by subway, by
bus - or on foot. The Archer is more likely to impulsively (and extravagantly,
in Virgo's opinion) hail a taxi or rent a car. Maybe even suddenly decide to buy
one (he leans to fast and jazzy sports models) if he's a typical Sagittarian. It's
one of the bridges they'll have to cross together, to get to the other side (the
agreement side) of their differences - his inclination to spend money in a relatively
casual and carefree, generous manner - and her inclination to carefully
count the Daddy Lincolns and squeeze the Buffalos. The Virgin doesn't really
intend or want to be stingy, but unless her Moon or Ascendent is in a Fire or Air
Element, she may give an extremely good imitation of it.
or thrifty, sensible and cautious. But you know how Sag tends to call things
as he sees them, so he may see her "sensible thrift" as a clear case of stinginess,
and be not a bit bashful about telling her so, which, of course, will not exactly
endear him to the Virgin.
You see? Already, he's been a little clumsy, and stuck his foot in his
mouth. There's one way he can persuade her to thaw her frigid response to his
frankness concerning her financial attitudes. He can gaze at her ever-so-earnestly
(straight into her eyes, Virgos mistrust people who avert their glances)
and ask her politely if she'll suggest a way for him to hang on to some of his income,
help him figure out how much of it should be put away for a rainy day (or
for a secure future) earning interest. Which would be more advisable, Municipal
Bonds, a stock portfolio, a bank savings plan - or maybe a plump china
piggy bank at home? She'll love to be asked, and will have a stream of well-considered,
detailed suggestions. If she already knows him reasonably well, she'll
veto the piggy bank right away. Unless he leaves it with her. Too tempting
when he weakens.
Most people start out with ambitions for the future, enter a profession or
career of their choice, work toward their goal - and eventually, after they've enjoyed
a fair amount of time of achievement (and tucked away some cash), they
retire, and do as they please. The Archers approach the work ethic in reverse.
They like to start out by retiring - or at least, by doing just what they please. If
what pleases them is unduly restricted by the demands of employment, they often
toss security over their shoulders, shrug - follow the features of their
hunches for a while, and figure that, when things get tough, they can always find
a different occupation that isn't so confining. It's an attitude that horrifies the
usually hard-working, efficient and responsible Virgo woman. So she'll criticize
him, first gently - and then, if he continues to behave as though he couldn't
care less about the future, her very real apprehensions will cause her to point
out his flaws more sharply.
He'll fiercely resent what he views as nagging, then pull out his bow and
quiver, and aim a few blunt arrows of truth - as he sees it - into the heart of
her objections. To work at a job you hate more than you love, only to gain financial
security, he'll tell her, can slowly murder the spirit. He doesn't know (or
care) how other males feel, but as for himself, he believes a man's work or career
should be something he enjoys so much, he would do it without a cent of pay if
he had to, because he's so magnetized by its challenge - because he must express
himself in this way, or be forever unfulfilled. (An unfulfilled Archer is a
sad and empty man, more so than any other.) I hate to takes sides in an argument
between lovers, but astrology forces me to agree with the Centaur's philosophy
on the subject of work. A fringe benefit of such an attitude Virgo should
appreciate, is that financial rewards frequently pour in, not despite it, but because
of it. It's never those who set out determined to make a lot of money, with
financial security as the bottom line goal, who succeed and become wealthy.
The greatest fortunes never fail to match the greatest achievements, granted by
Lady Luck invariably to those who are consumed and obsessed by an idea, so
single-minded about it that they're completely oblivious to the cash remuneration.
Their fortunes pile up around them, nearly unnoticed. The Universe
smiles on them, because they work with love, not with the apathy of boredom or
frustrated resentment. Dr. Land and his obsession with the Polaroid photographic
process. Henry and his love affair with his Ford. Tom Edison and the
sounds he heard in his head, he desperately had to somehow channel. David
Sarnoff... and thousands upon thousands of others.
There are plumbers and electricians who passionately love their work, and
couldn't possibly imagine doing anything else. There are chefs who adore to
cook, physicians who desperately long to heal, waiters who are happy talking
with people, fascinated by the changing streams of the faces of humanity. Yes,
there are even people who feel a deep, personal satisfaction in scrubbing floors
and washing windows - in cleaning. They're aware of a powerful lifting of the
spirits from seeing dirt and untidiness magically change into freshness and shining
order. (Virgo should comprehend that!) I know a man who would rather
paint houses than be President, truthfully. It exhilarates him in a way he
doesn't try to explain to himself - least of all to anyone else. Albert Schweitzer
preferred the hardships of steamy jungles to a chrome-plated, modern science
lab, while others prefer the chrome-plated, modern science lab to primitive labor
in the jungle. Those who punch their factory time clocks with suppressed
bitterness and a sense of futility turn out ugly furniture, not fit to pass down to
anyone, hardly fit for the original owner, after a few months. But a man who
loves his work is a craftsman, creating miracles from wood and other materials
that are treasured for centuries. And so it goes. There was a time when people
were more inclined to follow their hearts to their professions, when society made
it easier to earn one's daily bread with love. Now all we have are square pegs in
round holes, and vice versa, because of the rat race called "success," that turns
out, in the end, to be a cruelly false label. Millions ask themselves privately,
"Why is success such a failure?" Because it was wrongly defined in the beginning,
that's why. By television commercials . . . and within the glossy ads in
magazines. Madison Avenue has a heavy karma ahead, for sure.can solvehe may be the one who lies there, musing about the
Because Virgo contains the seed of purity (purity of thought, intention and
action) the Virgin may be moved by her restless, independent Archer's arguments,
and gradually grow to see things through his rosier colored glasses. An
end result like that is worth the friction these two must endure from the 4-10 influence
of their squared natal Suns. It's also more than a little possible that she
will impress her Sagittarian lover or husband with the stamp of her own kind of
patient integrity and sense of responsibility, her ability to keep dreams nice and
tidy, polished and gleaming, therefore more apt to be truly beautiful when it's
time for them to come out of their cedarwood drawers and manifest as realities.
In this way, the Virgin and the Centaur can turn the falsely labeled "curse" of
their 4-10 vibration of tension into a blessing, by helping each other eliminate
their "vices," through the process of simply exchanging their individual virtues
with one another.
True, there are multitudes of minor matters these two will disagree about,
causing periodic conflict between them. But there's always the man-woman alchemy
to soften the hurt of all the things that don't really matter as much as
they think they do. Love's physical chemistry can cover daily annoyances and
irritability with the heavy fragrance of roses, washed by a summer shower, in a
garden . . . the joyful feel of damp earth and wet grass, refreshing two hearts and
souls grown weary from constant misunderstanding. When the Virgin leans
back in her Sagittarian man's protecting arms, she'll forgive him most of his
trespasses against her, and he'll forget his own fiery anger over being criticized
and doubted. The flames of passion and desire within his Fire Sign nature -
and the deeper, more quiet needs of her "earthiness" can blend into a contentment
and peace between them that forms a foundation for more tolerance
toward each other regarding all those unimportant areas of conflict. But she
must take care not to allow her instinctive Virgo detachment and physical aloofness
to cause him to feel rejected, because he seeks and needs a more enthusiastic
response to his physical expression of tenderness.
During the reign of Britain's Queen Victoria, young women about to be
married, who shyly sought advice concerning the proper, ladylike behavior on
their honeymoons, were crisply admonished by their mothers to "just lie back
and think of England." There may be times when the Sagittarian man thinks
he's been projected into the Victorian Age with his Virgo lady - his bright and
gentle, but somewhat cool, Virgin, who loves him with the same intensity as he
loves her, but may be unable initially to express her feelings with as much easy
spontaneity as he does so naturally. Telling her she's frigid won't solve the
problem. Tactlessness never solves anything. He'll have to patiently teach her
to trust him with her whole self, for patience, unlike "brutal honesty,"
anything at all. Once the Virgo woman has learned to be herself with the man
she loves, she can make of sexual Oneness a lingering and profound experience
for the sometimes clumsy, but cheerful and generous Archer, who has the ability
to reach the heights in everything he does . . . not excluding making love.
After they've grown accustomed to matching their rhythms in all their communications
(they communicate well, these two, both being Mutable) the Virgo
woman will lie back on the shoulder of her Sagittarian man, and think of many
things other than England. The both possess intelligent, inquiring minds that
sparkle with ideas. Then
British Isles. Some midnight, after they've loved, he'll suddenly ask her if she'd
like to forget all about caution and practicality . . . just pack a couple of suitcases
tomorrow, lock the front door, give the neighbors the key, so they can drop
by to water the plants . . . catch an early flight for London, and arrive in time to
hear the chimes of Big Ben by noon. If she's as smart as Virgos are born to be,
she'll analyze his skyrocket suggestion carefully for about two and one third seconds,
kiss him on the nose, snap on the light, smile into his eyes with her whole
heart, and say, "Well, what are we waiting for? You get out the suitcases, and
phone the airport, while I'm taking my shower."
She'll call it economical

LIBRA WOMAN AND GEMINI MAN

It's a 5-9 astrological fact, and there's no room for argument. A Gemini male is
irresistible when he is effortlessly magnetizing a poor Libra girl into deserting
her nicely balanced life and pledging her heart to an uncertain future, flying in everything work both ways with Gemini and Libra?telling you that. She'll be surprised and hurt when he eventually
and out of ideas, towns, cities, and moods with him. Of course, it works both
ways. Doesn't
It's just as fascinating to watch an irresistible Libra female spilling clouds
of gentle, helpless, femininity all over a poor Gemini man, convincing him that
it's his own idea to settle down and do the only sensible, logical thing after falling
in love - get married, get a job, raise a family, and stay in one place with one
person who can handle both of him - namely her. Who wins this romantic
game? It sometimes depends on which one has the stronger Moon sign, but
usually it will be she, not he.
Whoever makes the initial approach, the laws of physics and chemistry soon
take over, and these lovers will soon be turning airy dream castles into solid,
substantial mortgages, because she smells so good, is so soft and cuddly, while
he is so quick and bright and intelligent, and can beat her at chess and checkers.
A Libra woman will seldom glance twice at a man beneath her intellectuality.
And a Gemini man will seldom sacrifice his precious freedom for a woman
who can't anagram his thoughts and work crossword dreams with him. It's always
amusing to watch a Gemini magician get fooled by one of his own magic
tricks with a few new twists. Yet, there is a certain poetic justice about it. Here
he has spent all his life charming girls, weaving his way in and out of romances,
making it seem it was always his partner's fault, never his, glibly charming his
way back into being friends again, and, in general, enjoying his enviable ability
to handle every situation with a string of words from Webster's accompanied by
small-boy innocence.
Now he meets a female who is more than his match at the game of guile,
who gives him right back what he dishes out. After he has been led to think he
has wooed and won her, after he allows her to harness his free spirit within the
confining bonds of matrimony - (let other women play house in the New Age of
sexual freedom, Libra females will settle only for a wedding ring) - after all
that, he will discover that her gentle, soft, persuasive and amiable manner covers
a cool, brilliant mind, a strong will, and a steely determination to get exactly
what she wants. This is no fluffy bunny rabbit - this is a WAC field general!
A Libra female will always manage to get her own way under the guise of
fairness, femininity and helplessness, but Libra is, in the final analysis, a masculine
sign. I keep
sees through her, which he will, because no one, not even Libra, can fool the
twinkling Gemini intellect for long. She didn't mean to be unfair or deceptive.
To Libra, all is fair in love and war between the sexes, and the female of the species,
in this respect, is more deadly than the male.
Her intriguing mind which so attracted him in the beginning of the romance
will later make her a dangerous opponent in a discussion, since she's so skillful
at the art of putting him at a disadvantage by arousing him into a display of
temper, thereby causing him to lose his cool and poise. Then she has him at her
mercy, while she claims tearfully that he is a brute, and his anger is certain evidence
that he is wrong. Over and over again, she will outmaneuver him by using
his own trick of twisting his statements and intent, leaving him unable to pin
down the flaw in her arguments because of her capacity for doing things with
such subtlety, and it doesn't seem she is doing anything at all, but fairly and
justly defending her position.
A Libra woman is as impatient of constraint as any of the twelve Sun Signs,
though perhaps not quite as much so as Gemini, Aquarius, Sag and Aries. For
the Gemini lover or husband to attempt to impose any sort of restriction upon
her would not be a wise idea. Just remember those Orientals (Libra rules the
Orient). They cannot be controlled by other races effectively because, while
they appear to be gentle and patient, offering no resistance, they will, nevertheless,
always manage to find some subtle way of nullifying the opposition. The thinking, he never stops to think.
He has no wish to attack, but his verbal outbursts can be sharp and cutting
to the Libra girl, who by nature covers every opinion with the softer blur of tact
and courtesy. Still, with his innate Mercurial charm, he'll win her over and
make her believe he didn't mean what he said, which he probably didn't (Geminis
never mean what they say for longer than an hour or so).
Their physical relationship may not be comprehensible to those born under
Fire or Earth signs, but to them it will be enough to fill their hearts with peace
and fulfillment. Neither is genuinely passionate, not really capable of love as
more intensely emotional people experience it. There will always be something
delicate and detached about their lovemaking - poetic and haunting, yes - but
sensual, no. Yet the banked fires of the sexual blending between this man and
woman are as magnetic and binding to their mutual air natures as the more torrid
contacts between other mates and lovers. Romance will eternally be more
important to both Gemini and Libra than sex. This attitude will predominate
and suffuse their intimacy with a beauty all its own.
These two do not view love as an erotic appetite to be appeased, but as an
art to be refined - not as lust, but as mutual pleasure - to be sipped slowly, not
gulped greedily or blindly. There's an undeniable air of voluptuousness about a
Libra woman, but also an air of refinement. Grossness, coarseness, obscenity
and vulgarity offend her.
(Of course, an earthier Moon Sign or Ascendent or a severe affliction between
Venus and Mars in her natal chart can dilute this basic part of her Sun
Sign nature - but, as always, with all Sun Signs, we're speaking of the typical
Libra Lady.)
There's small chance she'll be offended in such manner by the Gemini man,
who privately feels the same way she does, although he may need more variety
of expression in their physical union than his Venus-ruled wife. Yes, she will
eventually become his wife - or leave. Libra rules marriage, you know, and it's
a very rare Libran who is satisfied with an emotional relationship other than
marital for any length of time.
The typical Libra girl who normally can't make up her mind about love any
faster than she can about anything else, may nevertheless feel an impulse to
rush into matrimony with a Gemini man before she's taken the time to balance
her dipping Scales of decision. The infallible sign of a salesman is his ability to
make people fight for the article he's trying to sell, and Gemini is a salesman supreme.
When the article he's trying to sell is himself, the Libra girl is no more
invulnerable to the Mercury charm and gift of glamour than the rest of his dazzled
audience. She's sensible, intelligent, perceptive and all that, but these
qualities seem to fail her when she's losing her heart to this gentle man with the
bright eyes, light touch and far-out dreams.
Money may be a trifle more important to her than it is to him. Just a trifle
more. The accumulation of cash and the manipulation of finances is not the
prime motivation of either Libra or Gemini, except for the occasional natives of
these Sun Signs who almost accidently wander into the banking business. To
Gemini, money only becomes really important when he doesn't have it - when
he desperately needs it. To Libra, money is important because of the luxuries,
comforts and beauty of surroundings it can buy. Yet, stinginess and greediness
are not qualities belonging to the Air Element, so there should be few disputes
in this area, unless the Gemini man throws it away too freely, speculates too often,
or gambles on long shots. When he spends beyond the budget, it will usually
be connected with some new idea or promotion, a vacation or a change of residence
- at the very least, a brief change of scene. When she's extravagant, it's
more often lavished on clothes, dancing, singing or music lessons, sculpture, drama
or Yoga classes, and the like. Sometimes, home decor and beauty parlors.
They're basically alike in their attitudes toward money, as in many other matters,
although they may differ in their manner of using it, from time to time.
(Naturally, a stingier or more economical Moon Sign or Ascendent may slightly
change the picture in either birth chart, but not substantially.)
Their homes will probably be filled with music, flowers, books - and children.
Those who love within the vibration of the 5-9 influence often decide to
raise a family together, despite their reluctance to have children with members
of other Sun Signs. They'll do a lot of traveling, either mentally or geographically,
the relatives of each will be prominent in their relationship, and they may
find religion or higher education grounds for agreement - or periodic dispute.
If these two are also graced by a harmonious Sun-Moon aspect between
their respective nativities, their relationship will be smooth sailing on sparkling
water, perhaps punctuated by a few storms and reefs, but, on the whole, like
floating downstream on a feather. With a tense aspect between their Luminaries,
the air could become humid, muggy, and even smoggy now and then, but
there will always be the chance to run back into each other's arms for forgiveness
after a quarrel, however serious - to try again.
He'll send sorry flowers, she'll recall the way the lights danced in his eyes,
like a small boy, when he was excited, overlook his flaws, melt into his heart
once more - and begin all over again to analyze why she loves him. But she
won't solve the puzzle until she realizes that he is Twins, two-men-in-one. A Libra
woman is compelled to balance any duality she comes across into a harmonious
whole, by virtue of her Venus essence. She'll never completely accomplish
it, of course, but she may come closer to his magic than he'll ever allow anyone
else to come. Except, of course, for the other half of himself.

Gemini man will never gain a total victory over the Libra woman. Just when he
thinks he has succeeded in breaking down all her arguments, she will have
slipped around to another tactic or emotional strategy, catching him off guard
again. But he should also keep in mind the curious detachment of Libra. She
will take infinite pains to win her way, but when she fails, she has nearly the
same mental satisfaction in the analysis of the reason for failure as she would
have if she had been successful. He should keep this in mind, mainly because
the same thing is true of himself. The two of them are much alike in many ways,
influenced as they are by the very favorable and harmonious 5-9 Sun Sign Pattern
vibration. They are sympatico, and often complement one another even in
the areas where they differ.
Essentially, Gemini and Libra are wonderfully compatible, possessing many
virtues (as well as vices) in common. They tend to respect each other's mentality,
privacy, and freedom of thought and speech - normally. Yet there will be
times when he wounds her deeply and is completely baffled by her hurt reaction,
by the unexpected violence of her emotions. Any Libra woman in love with
a Gemini man will understand why it has been said of the Mercury-ruled male
that he is so busy

GEMINI WOMAN AND LIBRA MAN

The fact that the Gemini woman and the Libra man are so much alike is what
makes them so compatible and happy together. Also, the fact that the Gemini
woman and the Libra man are so much alike is what starts most of the trouble
between them.
They know each other only too well, sympathize with one another's dreams
and idiosyncrasies, can calmly cope with their mutual chameleon qualities, comprehend
each other's various moods, and will usually stick together against outsiders
who don't understand the airy mentality. If either he or she has a more
sensitive and emotional Water Element or a more stable Earth Element as a
Moon Sign or Ascendent, their happiness and bliss is pretty much astrologically
insured. Otherwise, these two are still guaranteed a far better than average
chance for success, except for small flurries on especially windy days. They can
both be a trifle windy, full of both cool breezes and hot air. As a 5-9 Sun Sign
Pattern, they are more harmoniously matched than most couples who are trying
to fit the jig-saw pieces of the puzzle of love into a perfect picture.
Both of them are aesthetically inclined, moved by beauty, acutely disturbed
by untidiness, ugliness, and disorder. Yet, despite this mutual essence, Gemini
and Libra, while needing, even demanding loveliness and order, may frequently
need a brisk Sagittarian, an energetic Aries, or an efficient Virgo maid to clean
up after them. Of course, some Geminis and Librans are tidy. But even they
would prefer to have someone else straighten out their messes - emotionally as
well as actually. Since Gemini is quicker, she will often be the one to follow her
Libra man around, picking up his discarded socks and banana peels. In return,
he will probably not deny her the money (if he has it) to make their surroundings
ever more comfortable and beautiful. More often than not, the nest of
these two love birds is charming, tasteful, pleasant to the eye, and probably full
of books. Even if they live in a tent, it will be well pegged and insulated, with
maybe burned etchings on the canvas for decor - and the soft sound of tomtoms
beating in the background. Soft, I said. Not too disturbing, because Libra
can't stand loud noises, lopsided stools or crooked tent pegs.
When this man and woman quarrel, it will almost always be she who starts
it - and he who finishes it. At least it will seem that way to observers. A Gemini
female, for all her airy charm and delicate femininity, possesses a sharp, satirical
tongue, and she's not reluctant to use it when her fast mind urges her to
express her quick opinions. Her Libra lover or husband will have recognized
early in Life that rudeness and frank speech is a stumbling block to achieving
his true and secret purpose, whether in love or business. So he projects a sort of
gentle amiability (most times) and is an expert at hiding his passions and intent
behind a smooth smile and a persuasive voice. Yes, she may have started it verbally.
But he may be at the
- by spending two weeks to make up his mind whether they should take
their vacation this month or next, while she had to stall the airlines and coax
them into holding their reservations during the busy season or something
similar. Therefore, regardless of who outwardly starts the fussing, he is seldom
innocent.
Libra men are never as innocent as they look and sound, or as they would
like to have you believe. In fact, there are times (rare, but they do exist) when feels to him like she is there. And, ofis - the one who has vowed to love and cherish him, never to
his Scales are dipping, and he can be as cranky as a cuckoo bird stuck in the little
clock door. On those occasions, however, he probably apologizes so sweetly,
overwhelming her with so much sugary Libra charm, that she may forget to remember
his grumpiness later. Strangers who gaze upon the Libra man's
smooth, even features have no way of knowing about the painfully articulated
resolves forming in his mind beneath his cheerful exterior - or the crankiness
displayed to his intimates while these are in the formative stage.
A Gemini girl might take a notion to be a dress designer. Then she could
become dazzled by the idea of getting a pilot's license and maybe her own Lear
jet. Following that, she could take a new notion to translate Sanskrit, study the
Dead Sea scrolls, open a pet shop or enroll in law school. But the Libra man can
handle all her tangled notions and emotions better than an Earth Sign male,
who might erupt like a volcano - a Fire Sign male, who might burn all the oxygen
out of her enthusiasms - or a Water Sign male, who might dampen her excitement
with a wet blanket.
Libra understands Gemini's wanderlust of the mind and heart, yet is stable
and logical enough to control her more erratic impulses before they blow up out
of proportion, gently pointing out the pros and cons to her, until she decides to
find her bluebird a little closer to home - and to him.
Serene is the word. Libra can be a serene influence on Gemini, except for
those occasional cranky-bear spells he charms her into forgetting. Goodness
knows the Gemini girl needs serenity. Hers is a restless spirit, a seeking soul.
She longs poignantly to know what she wants, where she stands, who she is and
why she's going - or coming. The Libra man is the most logical one to explain
all this to her. But... well, you see . . . a Gemini girl is made up of so many
fragments - of honey and spice and everything nice, yes. Yet, she's far more
than this. She's all the books she ever studied, a reflection of the ideas and philosophies
of her mirror-image Twin, diametrically opposed to her own. She's
the swinging rope she skipped in childhood, the plaintive wail of the gulls, and
the secrets she whispered to the sandpipers on the beach she once walked along,
the memory of her first dance . . . tumbleweeds and tornadoes . . . the flickering
candles of a half-forgotten New Year's Eve. These fragments of the Gemini girl
make up her private world, where the Libra man who loves her can never freely
roam, even though he may guide her through i t . . . from a distance.
There's something judicial and cold in Libra's balanced thinking process,
despite his charm and sweetness, that doesn't permit him to enter the deep
woods of the changeable fairyland where she and her Twin so frequently dwell.
He can watch her lovingly, as she removes her shoes and runs through the grass
barefoot - he can wait by the gate until she returns from her faraway land, but
he can never truly join her. Why? Because he would first have to locate it on a
map, see if an airline booked a flight there, learn its population and study its
chief industry, before loping off with her. Otherwise, how could he prove to
himself logically that such a place really does exist? And if it doesn't exist, why
go there at all? There's an invisible veil between this man and woman, for all
their many similarities of personality.
Their physical relationship is usually blessed with nearly complete fulfillment,
the kind of fulfillment only two Air Signs are able to comprehend (or desire).
At night, sometimes lying alone beside her (yes, lying alone beside her)
he's grateful when she returns from her make-believe world, back into his arms,
often not even guessing that fragments of her are still out there, chasing moonbeams
and playing tag with the stars. She
course, part of her
leave him. She can't be expected to account for the other, wayward one - her
Twin, who refuses to obey, even when she, herself, pleads.
Their sexual union will not be as all consuming as that between two Fire or
Earth signs, but it can be as refreshing as a summer storm, with flashes of thunder
and lightning. They are both airy, mental souls, living primarily in the
mind, not in the emotions, and so explosive passion may be missing, but the total
peace and tranquility of a deeply affectionate blending can be theirs. Sex, as
with all 5-9 Sun Sign Patterns, is important to this couple, but not primary for
happiness. Romantic love is equally needed, perhaps even more desired, by
both, and forms the true basis for the initial attraction between them.
These two will take turns being the aggressive partner in their lovemaking.
Both can switch from active to passive, from masculine to feminine, in a strange,
mystical way that makes their sexual experiences a constantly changing yet harmoniously
blended delight. If they have twin beds, there might be a few discussions
about who gets to sleep nearest the window, but aside from such minor adjustments,
these two will usually wake up in each other's arms, sharing a goodmorning
embrace that melts the previous night's disputes, as the Sun disperses
clouds.
They may need and complete each other physically, yet it's possible that he
may be more in love with her mind and spirit than with her body, and she may
have more interest in his intellect and soul than in his sexuality - even though
they may be only dimly aware of this. The chemistry between two Air Signs is
misty, mental, and variable - rather than earthy, passionate, and sensual. Not
all Gemini girls desire children, and very few dream of large families, but when
they do, it will often be a Libra man who is chosen to father them. Many Gemini
girls who would not have a child with any other man will find motherhood
more attractive with a Libra male.
If she marries him, it will be because she likes the way he sings or dances or
whistles the way he moves and walks and talks and winks. The way he
dresses too. Then, womanlike, she may set about to try to change him afterwards.
Ruled by Venus as he is, the Libra man may tolerate this and try to
please her, because he loves her - until he finally realizes that, although she
thrives on change, too much change affects his own equilibrium. So he'll roar
(gently) and put his foot down (softly) to prove he's a masculine Cardinal Sign,
return to his old ways - and it will probably be best for both of them.
They're likely to do lots of traveling together, may have either religious or
educational reasons for getting together, and may meet on a trip. If he ever gets
interested in UFO's, it will probably be because of her. She will inspire him to
reach heights he would not have aspired to reach without her. Because they
both have wings on their heels - and hearts - they may change residence more
often than lovers or mates born under other Sun Signs.
There is little doubt that the Gemini woman will at times confuse and confound
her Libra lover or husband. She is, after all, so many women in one. She
can be the most talkative when he's trying to think or struggling with a decision,
the prettiest when she has provoked him into a spell of rare Libra anger, the
most silent when he wants to show her off to his friends, the most energetic at
bedtime, the laziest in the morning when he's waiting for his poached eggs - but
what other woman could be such a kaleidoscope of grief, joy, annoyance, happiness,
embarrassment, irritation, delight, and frustration as this twin-packaged
mystery of femininity?
True, she can be untidy, lose the car keys, tangle up the checkbook, waste
his time and money, destroy his dignity, and try his temper - but just when he's
ready to walk out, her little-girl misty tears begin to splash, switching almost instantly
into a rippling Gemini laugh and he's lost again, caught between
the myriad women bottled up inside this girl, who needs his strength if she's
ever going to find her way out of the woods.
As for him, he'll relentlessly try to force her to be more logical and stable,her tendency to see all these things, not as they are, but asought to be. She sees what she desires to see, coloring facts with fancy,
criticize her faults, refuse to help her pick daisies when he has work to do, shatter
her fragile nerves, and sometimes behave like a stern judge, pronouncing
sentence over her free spirit - but when her dreams are scattered, her house
and her hair are both a mess, and she feels like a silly, foolish child, he can make
her feel like a woman when he smiles and says, "I don't know why I love you so
much, but I do."
Then she realizes that she's the one problem he can never balance on his
Scales and make come out even. Being a daughter of Eve, she will privately
smile, knowing that the solution to the enigma of herself can never be totally
analyzed by his intellect, only by his heart. Yet, also perversely, Eve-like, she'll
refuse to share this key to love's Gemini secret with him, wanting him to guess.
One serious level of disagreement within this liaison of Air will be the Libra
man's proclivity to weigh and judge things - to see life, people and situations in
the proper perspective and balance, coolly and logically, with an odd sort of detachment,
void of all whimsical notion. Not only does this facet of his nature
clash rather sharply with his own inherent optimism and faith, it will also frequently
conflict with
they
avoiding delusion (to her way of thinking) by drenching everything with illusion.
If he doesn't make a sincere effort to comprehend her attitude with compassion,
she may be forced to tell little white lies to defend her viewpoint. This
woman can be frightened of those who demand always the exact, precise, unvarnished
truth, with no allowances made for "maybe" - "perhaps" - and "suppose
it had been." Then, she could be forced to escape by plunging even deeper
into unreality. It wouldn't hurt Libra to add a few sprinkles of Gemini imagination
to all the matters he balances so seriously on his Scales. For truth is often
not what it appears to be - (Mercury taught her that) - logic can be deceptive
and facts can fool.
When the night is frosty and full of stars, who expects a warm summer rain
to be hiding just behind Arcturus? The Twins do. She knows that true wisdom
is only gained by adapting to life's ever-changing patterns. But he cannot accept
today's patterns until he's weighed them mentally against former and future
patterns and found them worthy of acceptance. Somewhere along the way,
near the center of these polarized points of view, Gemini and Libra will meet,
touch lightly linger and love.
bottom of it, the real initial instigator of the quarrel

VIRGO WOMAN AND GEMINI MAN

This is not a love affair that will automatically be draped in clouds of rainbows
and blankets of flowers, for these two face the severe test of the 4-10 Sun Sign
Pattern influence, with both its trials and its benefits, each of which can be considerable.
They have a rather rough romantic row to hoe. That doesn't mean
they can't raise cabbages together, but it does mean that their garden of love
will need frequent weeding.
It could begin with quarrels about whether the crop they plant should be
roses or veggies. Obviously, veggies make more sense. She is a Virgo, concerned
over possible world famine, termites in the attic, inflation - and the missing
button from his shirt. Veggies are clearly the answer. Not to the shirt or the
termites perhaps, but to inflation and the specter of starvation. What can you
do with a rose, when the wolf is pounding on the door?
Smell it. You can smell it. The Gemini man can inhale the fragrance of a
rose while poverty closes in, in much the same way that Nero fiddled while
Rome burned. Of course, all this gardening talk, as well as Nero's fiddle tune
amid the flames, is merely symbolic. But then, everything is symbolic, academic
or rhetorical, to Gemini. He was born wrapped in riddles, mewing with metaphors
and anagrams, and swaddled in analogies. Also with a telephone in one
hand and a telegram in the other. She was born, he may think at times, of an
unlikely union between a computer and a scrub brush. A self-programming
computer. (Is there such an instrument? Never mind, some Virgo with Aquarius
rising will invent one, working with a Gemini partner.)
That's not meant to imply that this man and woman don't find each other
fascinating, only that they also find each other frustrating. Most Gemini men
have forgotten their birth dates, either innocently or deliberately, by the time
they reach the age of twenty-one or so on the illusionary chronological calendar.
Counterwise, many Virgo girls have memorized the exact hour, minute and second
of birth - and besides that, they believe eternal youth is not only impossible,
but would be a bore. He finds it both possible and enchanting. You can see
that clocks, stopwatches and Einstein's theory of relativity can create one of the
chasms between them. There are others.
It's a rare Virgo female who becomes enthralled over the idea of tossing a
feather into the air and striking out in the direction it points to as it lands. If
she's a typical Virgin, she's not fond of geographical hopscotch. When she travels,
she prefers to utilize a travel folder, a travel agent, and the holiday-weekend-
family-cut-rate plan. The airlines invented just for Virgos what they refer
to as their "chicken-feed" flight (approximately between about 2 A.M. and 6
A.M.),
Twins, Virgo's Gemini man would secretly like to follow the feather, and as for
mode of travel, he's the one those "have breakfast in London and lunch in Italy"
posters are designed to attract.
When they first fall in love, often through mutual curiosity, she'll be
thrilled with the possibilities of casual, careless living he so charmingly endorses,
while he'll be flattered with her rapt attention, her alert mind, and her too rapt, herreal problems which are the true cause of the tensionher more seriously. Virgos often give the impressionthere. Not just his mind, heart and soul - all of him.
very feminine manner. But after a time, she may begin to question the wisdom
of synchronizing her life to a man who seems to be eternally wandering - either
physically, mentally or emotionally - his thoughts and actions no more predictable
than the weather. He may later feel her attention is a mite
mind perhaps too alert to allow him his needed privacy now and then, in which
to do his abstract thinking. Then they may become tangled up in the roses-veggies
hassle, symbolically. All quarrels between lovers are based on matters
which in themselves are not important but have been chosen because they symbolize
the deep-seated and
between them - some underlying truth that neither wants to face, for whatever
reason.
Despite her analytical, razor-slicing mind, the Virgo girl is ultrasensitive
and in need of appreciation. A Gemini male may be somewhat unsuccessful in
this area, because he's an Air Sign. Although Air Signs are not unsympathetic,
there is a certain detachment and aloof coolness about them, which can leave an
Earth Sign like Virgo feeling empty, somehow unfulfilled. There are times when
he will be truly incapable of understanding both her depth and her strength.
Then he'll try discussion and compromise, often failing altogether to touch the
source of the trouble. Even so, his combined intellectual ability and charm will
enable him to pacify her temporarily, until she's had time to analyze the errors
and flaws in his facile arguments.
If she doesn't take him too seriously, their relationship can be mentally exciting,
emotionally intriguing, and lots of fun. But Virgo takes everything seriously,
and she's certainly not going to make an exception of a lover or husband.
Perhaps he should take
they have committed themselves until "death do us part," then shock the partner
with a divorce action as neat and quick (and as unkind) as snapping off the
head of a flower. Most everything Virgo does is neat and quick. In that, these
two are very much alike. Both can be impatient with routine, and neither of
them are sloppy thinkers or dressers.
Sexually, she requires more physical demonstrations of affection than he -
and he requires more variety and poetry in lovemaking than she. Not that he
expects her to sleep with a copy of Rossetti under her pillow, nor does she require
him to conquer her like Valentino, but there are indisputably subtle differences
in their approaches to the physical chemistry of love. A Virgo girl does
not necessarily want to be treated as a Virgin by the man she loves. True, her
sexuality, as a whole, is not dramatically intense or excessively passionate, but
she wants to know he is
Although Virgo women, like Virgo men, can take sexual love lightly, they are
somewhat more earthy about it than the airy Gemini. Also, this girl feels more
confident and relaxed, and therefore can be a more satisfactory love partner, if
she feels some degree of security and familiarity in their intimate relationship.
This is not always possible with a Gemini, who is, lest we forget, two-people-inone
(sometimes three or four) and changeable enough to project desire one night
and cool disinterest the next.
Such behavior can throw a Virgo girl into a trauma of quiet desperation,
causing her to blame some defect in herself as the reason for the change in his
ardor. Virgos can be critical of others, but their sharpest criticism is always reserved
for themselves. Something will always be held back, in reserve, between
these two. Total abandonment and forgetfulness of the self is rarely achieved in
their sexual union, and so their physical compatibility, while deeply fulfilling
perhaps in some ways, may be somewhat emotionally guarded and controlled.
Mentally, however, very little will be held back between them. Neither can
be said to be a slouch in the language department. There are some Gemini-Virdepth in an emotional relationship.listen with genuine interest
go couples who use words as weapons, with deadly aim. Words hurt. But words
can also heal, and these two Sun Signs can use them for better or for worse. No
one can tenderly coax a timid Virgin out of her rigid reservations into the
blooming rose garden of self-confidence more expertly and smoothly than a
Gemini man - and no one can soothe the frequently jangled nerves of this Mercurial
male more gently and wisely than a Virgo girl, when they're both motivated
by love.
There's no doubt that they'll probably respect one another's mental abilities,
yet they may too often stifle open expressions of affection in each other.
Neither he nor she may comprehend the need for
She'll attend to all her necessary duties regarding him, neglecting no
details. She'll sew on his missing buttons, give him excellent advice concerning
his career, if and when he should ask her, seldom or never pressing her opinions
upon him uninvited. She'll be a stimulating companion at the theatre or watching
television . . . and be able to converse with him most intelligently about the
books, magazines and newspapers they read. Still, there may be a hint of
"duty" in her devotion, as steady and admirable as it is.
He'll find time to talk with her about all her worries, will probably encourage
discussions between them about anything that's on her mind, and allow her
lots of room for the free development of her own ideas, ideals and goals. He
won't smother her with undue jealousy or possessiveness, but he may cause her
to feel boxed-in with his sometimes excessive prying and probing, on a verbal
level.
After the first glow of Tomance has worn off, the Virgo woman could begin
to complain to her Gemini man that he's spreading his mental energy too thin.
She, too, has a thirst for knowledge, but she's not inclined to scatter it, and it
may seem to her that his is a mere craving for continual excitement and novelty.
Also, she may not share his enthusiasm for trips and traveling.
Most Virgos possess a strange empathy for children, strange because they
are so "adult" in every way themselves. But a child always brings out a Virgo
woman's latent potential for loveliness and beauty, an unsuspected talent for
imagination, and a great tenderness - an ability to
to all the despairs and delights of a young mind, as well as the wisdom to gently
guide it into refreshing streams of thought. Since every Gemini man is a child, a
little boy, at heart, these qualities within her can't but appeal to him enormously.
However, with him, she must deal, not just with one "child" but with Twins.
Repeatedly, she may attempt to teach him the value of discrimination, and find
that he has no real desire to discriminate. He may, in turn, try to teach her to be
more open, more expansive, to value personal freedom - and to acquire the
grace to impulsively follow a dream. But Virgos open up very slowly, like a
creaky door, and he's always in such a dreadful hurry. Besides, to her, freedom
will never be as valued as security. Conversely, to Gemini, security is often synonymous
with a mental San Quentin, restricting all possibility of a change of
plans, which is what he feels makes life worth living.
A Virgo woman is the kind to surprise a lover or husband by bringing him
breakfast in bed, but, unfortunately, few Gemini men like to sleep late. He's
more likely to leap out of bed, shower, bike or jog around the block a few laps or
catch the morning headlines before things like toast and cereal occur to him.
His sometimes curt or detached reaction to her gentle courtesies may hurt her
more than he suspects. Since his Mercury-ruled mind is so analytical, a Gemini
man who has been paid the tribute of being loved by an also Mercury-ruled (until
Vulcan appears) Virgin should analyze her true nature more carefully if he
wants to keep her.
Some Virgo women remain chaste and romantically aloof for years, then
risk everything on a single, unexpected and impossible passion that soon dies.
And so, she may not be, inwardly and actually, as emotionally cool and controlled
as she appears to be at times to him. The Gemini man is equally as likely
to find true love eluding him, until he's no longer Peter Pan, and Wendy has
grown up to marry someone else, who cared more about her than about his adventures.
Such painful disappointments can cause both Virgo and Gemini to brood
alone, tormenting themselves with longing and regret. Or it can cause them to
seek a calm, safe and undemanding relationship with each other, which could be
what they've both been searching for - if they only looked a little longer into
one another's eyes. But instead, they may avoid sustained gazing, fearing the
eyes may reveal too much, while she sweeps the floors.... and he wanders
around the house, whistling his little-boy-blue song... each reaching out their
hearts, but unable to express what they're really feeling openly.
Because their natal Suns were squared at birth, a certain amount of tension
and lack of comprehension is unavoidable between these two. In the electronics
of love, tension can short-circuit the emotions into silent darkness. But with a
harmonious Sun-Moon interchange between their horoscopes, this man and
woman could achieve a lasting affection and contentment through their union.
It may never be the turbulent, soaring ecstasy of Scarlett and Rhett, but love
need not always be explosive.
Sometimes, happiness can be a calm and quiet thing, a moment of rest upon
the wind, that makes sunset less sad and haunting . . . and brightens the sunrise
with a gentle promise.
when the world's asleep, but Virgos are alert to economy. As for the

GEMINI WOMAN AND VIRGO MAN

The first problem this man and woman face is the contrast between her gregariousness
and his tendency to reclusivity. If he's a typical Virgo male, barring a
more convivial Moon Sign or Ascendent, he would really prefer, within his deepest
subconscious, to live alone, without the necessity of having a constant companion
tagging along beside him - even if she's bright, pretty, soft and squeezable.
A man can't spend all his time squeezing a wife. Some hours must be spent
in squeezing plans for future security into the proper molds.
Consequently, when the Gemini girl seeks periodic flings of freedom, her
Virgo lover or husband may grumble a bit outwardly, but inwardly he probably
sighs with relief. Now he can have a little peace and quiet, to figure out how
many atoms make up a molecule, what caused the stock market to zip up or slip
down last week, adjust his alarm clock, sort his laundry, count his cat's whiskers
and ponder the puzzles of the Universe in general, without all that constant
chattering and flurry of activity. He may genuinely love his Gemini girl, but his
heart contains hidden shelves, where she is not allowed to dust - or even peek.
When she's constantly dazzling him with her perfume, her squeezability, quick
wit and mental agility, he gets confused and loses track of which opinion he has
glued to what shelf, even the particular day and year he stashed it away there.
And so, he may not question her whereabouts, so pleased is he to have a period
of restful contemplation.
Not that there aren't some Virgo men who display occasional, half-hearted
spurts of jealousy. There are a few. But it's a great mistake to become angry
with the diversity of a Gemini girl, when you analyze it, and Virgos are past
masters at analyzing. Her need to communicate with a variety of people (and
men do, after all, make up roughly half the human race) should not be interpreted
as unfaithfulness or promiscuity - unless it's certain that this is the case.
Sometimes it is. Yet, surprisingly often, it is not. Admittedly, it can become so,
if his Virgo criticism, hair-splitting and nagging cause her to feel her wings are
being clipped. If there's anything a Gemini female can't stand, it's having her
wings clipped, cropped or folded. Birds must fly. Birds in cages constitute unbearable
cruelty against Nature's intent.
Still, for a man whose essential attitude and Sun Sign essence points him
toward bachelorhood, the Virgo male is capable, when he chooses, of settling
down into the groove of matrimony - or a shared life with a woman he loves -
with an unexpected grace. Although he's basically a loner and dislikes sharing
his every thought with a mate, Virgo is of the Earth Element, and Earth stays
where it was placed by Nature, unless an earthquake or a tornado dislodges portions
of it. But is that the Earth's fault? There it was, minding its own business
. . .
I have thus far referred to their relationship as though it were marbled in
matrimony, because most Virgos become uneasy living with a woman without
benefit of clergy. Not all. Most. Geminis, however, normally do not find it difficult
to sanction and champion free love or free marriage. Gemini is all for anything
that has the word "free" in it. Therefore, whether to wed - or not to
wed - may be a question of initial contention, once they've both been chemically
magnetized into desiring union.
In the necessary confines of love or marriage, as with a business partner, the
Virgo man will not ordinarily seek to dominate. He tends to be quite impeccably
businesslike about his love affair or marriage, and unless he has an extremely
afflicted horoscope emotionally, he will make an excellent partner, insofar as
small comforts and conveniences are concerned, attending dutifully and diligently
to birthdays and anniversaries, emptying the kitty litter and making sure
they don't run out of vitamins. Most Gemini girls would, of course, prefer to
have their birthdays and anniversaries observed through the customary process
of passionate or sentimental memory, rather than through periodic checking of a
date and appointment book with a red pencil. But who is she to complain?
Dates are certainly not her own strong point, and she may get mixed up, from
time to time, sending him a get-well card on her mother's birthday or buying
him a wedding-anniversary gift on the date they bought the house - and while
we're on the subject of homes, if they buy one, he will suggest it first, nine times
out of ten. The tenth time, if she happens to be the one who initiates a consultation
with a real-estate agent, check her Moon Sign or Ascendent. One or both is
probably in the Earth Element. The typical Gemini girl likes houses well
enough, but prefers apartments, because she can change them once in awhile,
say every few months or so. Needless to remark, Virgo men normally do not
find this sort of musical tepee game feasible or practical. It will pay to remember
that practicality - too little or too much of it - will be the true underlying
cause for many of their arguments. He has too much to please her and she has
too little to suit him, if he is a typical Virgo and she is a typical Gemini.
As for their sexual compatibility, a Virgo can be, with all his innate sweetness,
courtesy, consideration and punctuality, an impossible lover or husband
for a temperamental woman. Of course, not all Geminis are temperamental. Or
rather, one of her Twin selves may be emotionally temperamental - and the
other may be detached. Virgo males, you see, are not overly emotional. Nor is
the average Virgo unduly affectionate. Legend claims that Narcissus was a Virgo,
helplessly in love with his own image. I personally believe Narcissus was a
Leo, but aside from all that, it is true that Virgo men are often accused of being
cold and self-centered. (Leo can be self-centered, but never cold.)
If the deepest spiritual secret of sex is the mutual abandonment of the self
for the mate, resulting in a fusion of minds, souls, and bodies into perfect Oneness
(which, as a matter of fact, it is), the typical Virgo has yet to master this
esoteric mystery. Unless he's carefully and tenderly taught, or unless he had an
early Scorpio sweetheart, it may elude him for a number of years, perhaps for a
lifetime. He unconsciously shrinks from the concept of total surrender as he
shrinks from the idea of using someone else's Vicks salve. I know a Geminiotherwise, he's not too they like him, and if he can serve them as best he knows how,
woman (this is not a fable) who once told me her Virgo husband insisted on labeling
the two Vicks salve jars in the medicine chest HIS and HERS. Nearly every
Virgo was frightened in the womb by a mean germ (and a scattering of
Aquarians were also).
Not only does this man mistrust surrender, sexual or
hung up on the initial step of conquest either . . . so he may fail to arouse enthusiasm
in himself, or in others. This might not go over well with an Aries, Leo or
Scorpio female, but it could be the reason the Twins fell in love with him in the
first place. Not all, but the majority of Gemini girls feel more secure, in or out of
wedlock, whether they realize it or not, when they can play love as a pretend
game. Gemini lovemaking is airy and light, delicate, ethereal. Since a Virgo
man is beautifully adept at the art of light lovemaking, he can succeed with her
where other men have failed because they refused to play the make-believe
game with her.
Instinctively, she could feel emotionally safe with this man, and they may
offer one another a sense of security that forms a foundation for the later development
of a deep passion between them - which might never have flowered in
her with a more sexually serious male - or with a more passionately demanding
female, speaking for his side of the matter. She might find some of his habits,
like showering both before and immediately after their physical togetherness, a
little disconcerting - but then, he could also find her habit of interrupting their
goodnight kiss, or preliminary to an intimate union embrace, with an account of
a weird dream she had last weekend to be somewhat dampening and discouraging
too. Neither of them will be totally emotionally destroyed if this should
happen to postpone their kiss or embrace until the following morning.
Yes, they will have their small differences. Most Gemini girls enjoy sleeping
late and are subject to periodic attacks of insomnia. Virgo men suffer from
insomnia too, when they're worried about something, which is frequently - but
this man would rather be caught wearing red- and purple-flowered Levi's as be
caught sleeping till noon, both of these choices of behavior being, more or less,
mortal sins to the Virgin. If he's the kind of Virgo who insists on a neat house
and punctual meals, he'll soon learn that this girl won't see the need for absolute
perfection in such areas. She's certainly capable of being an exquisite hostess
(although he seldom brings anyone home for her to hostess) and when she
chooses, she can create a delightful home atmosphere. But it's doubtful that
she'll scrub floors with true enthusiasm and excitement - and if she smokes
(pray not!), there may be a few dirty ashtrays around. This won't make a hit
with him, because most Virgos detest smoking to begin with, and they positively
despise the offensive odor of full ashtrays.
Surprisingly, however, the usual, petty, day-to-day irritations may not
cause any major quarrels between them. A Virgo man doesn't really demand a
whole lot from either love or marriage, except maybe his own Vicks salve jar -
and neither does she. He would appreciate, of course, some punctuality concerning
meals, at least a semblance of faithfulness. But, in general, a Gemini
girl is adaptable enough to cope with things that could cause despair in other females,
and he's practical enough not to expect love and marriage to be made either
in heaven or in hell, but somewhere in-between. Barring severe planetary
afflictions between their birth charts, these two will probably not be overly demanding
of one another, compared to other Sun Sign combinations.
Her swift personality changes and many moods could puzzle and annoy
him. His quiet spells of introversion, during which he refuses to communicate,
could flash her into many an instant, but normally quickly dispersed, thunderstorm.
There are times when he'll bore her to tears, and she'll agitate him into
indigestion - and it's also possible that their lives together may be one long
guessing game of verbal chess and emotional jai alai. Yet, it's equally possible

that she'll supply the excitement and the zest for living that this man desires so
wistfully and needs so very much - whereas he'll supply the stability of purpose
she's seeking, even though she's not aware she's seeking it.
Gemini is Air, Virgo is Earth, and these two elements have little in common.
But this is a 4-10 Sun Sign Pattern, and mutual respect may, therefore, be the
magnet that brings them together, while duty or responsibility of some kind, related
to family ties or career, may hold them together.
A Virgo man is more truthful than a Sagittarian man, more basically honest
than even the Archers. To him, telling the truth saves a great deal of trouble.
His grandmother used to singsong, "Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first
we practice to deceive," and he decided way back then that deception was an
unnecessary burden. In no way does he wish to become tangled up in any sort of
web. Certainly not one of his own making. And so, the typical Virgo will place
the straight facts of any situation right on the table, with no hedging. It's not a
habit designed to endear him to anyone, but one of his most admirable qualities
is that he doesn't much care if he endears himself to everyone - just to a few
close friends. If
that's enough for him. He doesn't need to win popularity contests to be contented
with things the way they are, and make the best of Life. In fact, he often
makes much better than the best of Life - and of love - if he's handled gently,
softly - and not engulfed in waves of emotion that cause his quiet charm and
beautiful manner to retreat into a self-made cave to avoid conflict. When the
conflict is something other than emotional, however, he'll press ahead and will
rarely turn back from what he believes is the right course.
The path of the Virgo male is seldom strewn with flowers, nor does he stop
on the way to pluck posies of praise for his services. Still, his heart will be lighter,
and his spirit brighter, if he allows a Gemini girl to dance along beside him
and fill those lonely moments with her lovely laugh, her way of catching a breeze
in her hands, and phrasing the sound of a cool woodland stream in her voice,
even when she's only saying "Good morning, darling." The word "impossible"
doesn't exist for her. If something can't be accomplished one way, then she'll
think of a new way, a better way. It's a talent he should find beautifully helpful.
She's incorrigible, irrepressible - but also irresistible. With a harmonious Luminary
exchange between their horoscopes, they can, perhaps, find a familiar
country in each other's smiles that will be a wonderful adventure to explore together.
But the Gemini girl is Twins, sometimes even triplets. And a Virgo man
has enough trouble coping with just one woman. He wasn't born to be able to
handle a harem - or a mate with a multiple personality. To achieve happiness
with him, the Gemini girl must first decide who she is, then forever after remain
indivisibly his.

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