The first problem this man and woman face is the contrast between her gregariousness
and his tendency to reclusivity. If he's a typical Virgo male, barring a
more convivial Moon Sign or Ascendent, he would really prefer, within his deepest
subconscious, to live alone, without the necessity of having a constant companion
tagging along beside him - even if she's bright, pretty, soft and squeezable.
A man can't spend all his time squeezing a wife. Some hours must be spent
in squeezing plans for future security into the proper molds.
Consequently, when the Gemini girl seeks periodic flings of freedom, her
Virgo lover or husband may grumble a bit outwardly, but inwardly he probably
sighs with relief. Now he can have a little peace and quiet, to figure out how
many atoms make up a molecule, what caused the stock market to zip up or slip
down last week, adjust his alarm clock, sort his laundry, count his cat's whiskers
and ponder the puzzles of the Universe in general, without all that constant
chattering and flurry of activity. He may genuinely love his Gemini girl, but his
heart contains hidden shelves, where she is not allowed to dust - or even peek.
When she's constantly dazzling him with her perfume, her squeezability, quick
wit and mental agility, he gets confused and loses track of which opinion he has
glued to what shelf, even the particular day and year he stashed it away there.
And so, he may not question her whereabouts, so pleased is he to have a period
of restful contemplation.
Not that there aren't some Virgo men who display occasional, half-hearted
spurts of jealousy. There are a few. But it's a great mistake to become angry
with the diversity of a Gemini girl, when you analyze it, and Virgos are past
masters at analyzing. Her need to communicate with a variety of people (and
men do, after all, make up roughly half the human race) should not be interpreted
as unfaithfulness or promiscuity - unless it's certain that this is the case.
Sometimes it is. Yet, surprisingly often, it is not. Admittedly, it can become so,
if his Virgo criticism, hair-splitting and nagging cause her to feel her wings are
being clipped. If there's anything a Gemini female can't stand, it's having her
wings clipped, cropped or folded. Birds must fly. Birds in cages constitute unbearablecruelty against Nature's intent.
Still, for a man whose essential attitude and Sun Sign essence points him
toward bachelorhood, the Virgo male is capable, when he chooses, of settling
down into the groove of matrimony - or a shared life with a woman he loves -
with an unexpected grace. Although he's basically a loner and dislikes sharing
his every thought with a mate, Virgo is of the Earth Element, and Earth stays
where it was placed by Nature, unless an earthquake or a tornado dislodges portions
of it. But is that the Earth's fault? There it was, minding its own business
. . .
I have thus far referred to their relationship as though it were marbled in
matrimony, because most Virgos become uneasy living with a woman without
benefit of clergy. Not all. Most. Geminis, however, normally do not find it difficult
to sanction and champion free love or free marriage. Gemini is all for anything
that has the word "free" in it. Therefore, whether to wed - or not to
wed - may be a question of initial contention, once they've both been chemically
magnetized into desiring union.
In the necessary confines of love or marriage, as with a business partner, the
Virgo man will not ordinarily seek to dominate. He tends to be quite impeccably
businesslike about his love affair or marriage, and unless he has an extremely
afflicted horoscope emotionally, he will make an excellent partner, insofar as
small comforts and conveniences are concerned, attending dutifully and diligently
to birthdays and anniversaries, emptying the kitty litter and making sure
they don't run out of vitamins. Most Gemini girls would, of course, prefer to
have their birthdays and anniversaries observed through the customary process
of passionate or sentimental memory, rather than through periodic checking of a
date and appointment book with a red pencil. But who is she to complain?
Dates are certainly not her own strong point, and she may get mixed up, from
time to time, sending him a get-well card on her mother's birthday or buying
him a wedding-anniversary gift on the date they bought the house - and while
we're on the subject of homes, if they buy one, he will suggest it first, nine times
out of ten. The tenth time, if she happens to be the one who initiates a consultation
with a real-estate agent, check her Moon Sign or Ascendent. One or both is
probably in the Earth Element. The typical Gemini girl likes houses well
enough, but prefers apartments, because she can change them once in awhile,
say every few months or so. Needless to remark, Virgo men normally do not
find this sort of musical tepee game feasible or practical. It will pay to remember
that practicality - too little or too much of it - will be the true underlying
cause for many of their arguments. He has too much to please her and she has
too little to suit him, if he is a typical Virgo and she is a typical Gemini.
As for their sexual compatibility, a Virgo can be, with all his innate sweetness,
courtesy, consideration and punctuality, an impossible lover or husband
for a temperamental woman. Of course, not all Geminis are temperamental. Or
rather, one of her Twin selves may be emotionally temperamental - and the
other may be detached. Virgo males, you see, are not overly emotional. Nor is
the average Virgo unduly affectionate. Legend claims that Narcissus was a Virgo,
helplessly in love with his own image. I personally believe Narcissus was a
Leo, but aside from all that, it is true that Virgo men are often accused of being
cold and self-centered. (Leo can be self-centered, but never cold.)
If the deepest spiritual secret of sex is the mutual abandonment of the self
for the mate, resulting in a fusion of minds, souls, and bodies into perfect Oneness
(which, as a matter of fact, it is), the typical Virgo has yet to master this
esoteric mystery. Unless he's carefully and tenderly taught, or unless he had an
early Scorpio sweetheart, it may elude him for a number of years, perhaps for a
lifetime. He unconsciously shrinks from the concept of total surrender as heshrinks from the idea of using someone else's Vicks salve. I know a Geminiotherwise, he's not too they like him, and if he can serve them as best he knows how,
woman (this is not a fable) who once told me her Virgo husband insisted on labeling
the two Vicks salve jars in the medicine chest HIS and HERS. Nearly every
Virgo was frightened in the womb by a mean germ (and a scattering of
Aquarians were also).
Not only does this man mistrust surrender, sexual or
hung up on the initial step of conquest either . . . so he may fail to arouse enthusiasm
in himself, or in others. This might not go over well with an Aries, Leo or
Scorpio female, but it could be the reason the Twins fell in love with him in the
first place. Not all, but the majority of Gemini girls feel more secure, in or out of
wedlock, whether they realize it or not, when they can play love as a pretend
game. Gemini lovemaking is airy and light, delicate, ethereal. Since a Virgo
man is beautifully adept at the art of light lovemaking, he can succeed with her
where other men have failed because they refused to play the make-believe
game with her.
Instinctively, she could feel emotionally safe with this man, and they may
offer one another a sense of security that forms a foundation for the later development
of a deep passion between them - which might never have flowered in
her with a more sexually serious male - or with a more passionately demanding
female, speaking for his side of the matter. She might find some of his habits,
like showering both before and immediately after their physical togetherness, a
little disconcerting - but then, he could also find her habit of interrupting their
goodnight kiss, or preliminary to an intimate union embrace, with an account of
a weird dream she had last weekend to be somewhat dampening and discouraging
too. Neither of them will be totally emotionally destroyed if this should
happen to postpone their kiss or embrace until the following morning.
Yes, they will have their small differences. Most Gemini girls enjoy sleeping
late and are subject to periodic attacks of insomnia. Virgo men suffer from
insomnia too, when they're worried about something, which is frequently - but
this man would rather be caught wearing red- and purple-flowered Levi's as be
caught sleeping till noon, both of these choices of behavior being, more or less,
mortal sins to the Virgin. If he's the kind of Virgo who insists on a neat house
and punctual meals, he'll soon learn that this girl won't see the need for absolute
perfection in such areas. She's certainly capable of being an exquisite hostess
(although he seldom brings anyone home for her to hostess) and when she
chooses, she can create a delightful home atmosphere. But it's doubtful that
she'll scrub floors with true enthusiasm and excitement - and if she smokes
(pray not!), there may be a few dirty ashtrays around. This won't make a hit
with him, because most Virgos detest smoking to begin with, and they positively
despise the offensive odor of full ashtrays.
Surprisingly, however, the usual, petty, day-to-day irritations may not
cause any major quarrels between them. A Virgo man doesn't really demand a
whole lot from either love or marriage, except maybe his own Vicks salve jar -
and neither does she. He would appreciate, of course, some punctuality concerning
meals, at least a semblance of faithfulness. But, in general, a Gemini
girl is adaptable enough to cope with things that could cause despair in other females,
and he's practical enough not to expect love and marriage to be made either
in heaven or in hell, but somewhere in-between. Barring severe planetary
afflictions between their birth charts, these two will probably not be overly demanding
of one another, compared to other Sun Sign combinations.
Her swift personality changes and many moods could puzzle and annoy
him. His quiet spells of introversion, during which he refuses to communicate,
could flash her into many an instant, but normally quickly dispersed, thunderstorm.
There are times when he'll bore her to tears, and she'll agitate him into
indigestion - and it's also possible that their lives together may be one longguessing game of verbal chess and emotional jai alai. Yet, it's equally possible
that she'll supply the excitement and the zest for living that this man desires so
wistfully and needs so very much - whereas he'll supply the stability of purpose
she's seeking, even though she's not aware she's seeking it.
Gemini is Air, Virgo is Earth, and these two elements have little in common.
But this is a 4-10 Sun Sign Pattern, and mutual respect may, therefore, be the
magnet that brings them together, while duty or responsibility of some kind, related
to family ties or career, may hold them together.
A Virgo man is more truthful than a Sagittarian man, more basically honest
than even the Archers. To him, telling the truth saves a great deal of trouble.
His grandmother used to singsong, "Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first
we practice to deceive," and he decided way back then that deception was an
unnecessary burden. In no way does he wish to become tangled up in any sort of
web. Certainly not one of his own making. And so, the typical Virgo will place
the straight facts of any situation right on the table, with no hedging. It's not a
habit designed to endear him to anyone, but one of his most admirable qualities
is that he doesn't much care if he endears himself to everyone - just to a few
close friends. If
that's enough for him. He doesn't need to win popularity contests to be contented
with things the way they are, and make the best of Life. In fact, he often
makes much better than the best of Life - and of love - if he's handled gently,
softly - and not engulfed in waves of emotion that cause his quiet charm and
beautiful manner to retreat into a self-made cave to avoid conflict. When the
conflict is something other than emotional, however, he'll press ahead and will
rarely turn back from what he believes is the right course.
The path of the Virgo male is seldom strewn with flowers, nor does he stop
on the way to pluck posies of praise for his services. Still, his heart will be lighter,
and his spirit brighter, if he allows a Gemini girl to dance along beside him
and fill those lonely moments with her lovely laugh, her way of catching a breeze
in her hands, and phrasing the sound of a cool woodland stream in her voice,
even when she's only saying "Good morning, darling." The word "impossible"
doesn't exist for her. If something can't be accomplished one way, then she'll
think of a new way, a better way. It's a talent he should find beautifully helpful.
She's incorrigible, irrepressible - but also irresistible. With a harmonious Luminary
exchange between their horoscopes, they can, perhaps, find a familiar
country in each other's smiles that will be a wonderful adventure to explore together.
But the Gemini girl is Twins, sometimes even triplets. And a Virgo man
has enough trouble coping with just one woman. He wasn't born to be able to
handle a harem - or a mate with a multiple personality. To achieve happiness
with him, the Gemini girl must first decide who she is, then forever after remainindivisibly his.