I don't want to shatter any glass slipper dreams, but this combination usually
works out better when the girl is the Pisces and the boy is the Ram. An Aries female
needs a determined, thick-skinned male who has the aggressiveness to say,
"Shut up, and listen," when it's necessary. And it will assuredly be necessary,
from time to time, with this girl.
There are, of course, as always, the exceptions that prove the astrological
rule. A Pisces man, for example, with the Moon or Ascendent in a Fire Sign,
such as Aries, Sagittarius or Leo, may possess just the right blend of fiery command
and gentleness of manner to make this rather spunky one become as meek
as a lamb. Well, maybe not
she'd be around most other men.
In a way, it's what she secretly seeks and longs for - someone who will control
her firmly (and make her feel feminine) - on occasion. Someone who will
allow her to be boss (half the time) - and be the tender, charming Prince of her
dreams (the rest of the time, whatever time is left). She needs a strong big
brother to protect her, a companion she considers her equal in intelligence, a
lover who will physically conquer her, and a quiet man who will not try to confine
her spirited personality, or domineer her. It would also be nice if he could
be a poet.
And of course, he should be willing, even anxious, to defend her loyally
against her enemies (until she forgives them, then he should love them) as she
will defend him against his (whether he wants her to or not). And let's see -
yes, he must also admire and respect her, and tell her so frequently - be the
kind of man who likes to chop wood and fix things when they're broken (including
her heart) - a man who can handle an emergency with cool poise, and meet
a crisis with great courage. He must, by all means, be possessed of impeccable
integrity, and be snowflake-pure-sexually-faithful to her. (But he must not be a
doormat, or self-effacing.)
If possible, she would like him to consist of equal parts of Rhett Butler,
Robert Browning, Muhammed Ali, Mike Todd, Abraham Lincoln - and her favorite
saint. Maybe a touch of Charlton Heston, Warren Beatty, Jimmy Stewart,
Marlon Brando and Steve McQueen, with just a dash of Norman Mailer - if
that's not asking too much.
Nearly every single Christmas of her life, for as far back as she can remember,
she carefully printed out her request in a letter to Santa Claus, and he ignored
it, year after year, leaving all sorts of useless things under the tree, except
this one most important gift. (You can sympathize with his problem.)
When you consider it carefully, a Pisces man has as many chances to live up
to her romantic ideals as any other male.
starts out even. You know? The Fish certainly can't ask for better odds than
those.A girl Ram is fun and fresh. She's pretty and punchy, full of spirit and she would react to being part of what some flippant astrologersall the other eleven Sun Signs. And this man has
sparkles and warmth and generosity - all that. But she does need to be sat
upon occasionally, when her Mars will causes her to be a bit too frisky and free
for her own good - or for the peace of mind of the man who loves her. Pisces
men just never sound very convincing when they say things like "Shut up, and
listen." The Fish is more in his own element when he's figuring abstract physics
or math theories, calculating the relativity of time, in relation to space - or
quoting Tennyson. It's possible for the Ram and the Fish to meet, mate, and
murmur sentiments into each other's ears happily, for a lifetime. It can happen.
Not often. But it can. Where's your faith in miracles?
A Pisces man is more likely than any other to genuinely believe in the kind
of enchantment every Aries girl lives within, and demands romantically. She'll
adore him for it. She'll trust his dreams, have faith in his visions - and she'll
respond (at first, anyway) with little flutters of excitement to his sensitivity and
his gentleness. Then she'll feel an irresistible urge to defend him against those
who judge him unfairly as an idle dreamer with no future. (She'll have simply
bushels of chances to do that!)
Most people have been so brainwashed by astrological over-simplifications,
they think every Pisces is a wishy-washy candidate for Alcoholics Anonymous,
or group therapy (nude group therapy, considering the Age we're living in).
True, he was born under a complicated and difficult Sun Sign. The stars portended
at his birth that he'd have to pick his way through a haze of daydreams.
He was also fated to get caught in the sticky octopus tendrils of other people's
troubles as he swims along through life trying his best to mind his own
business (which can be even more tangled and confusing). His ruling planet,
Neptune, seems to be forever leading him into situations so mysterious, so intertwined
with intrigue and half-truths that even a Ouija board couldn't get to the
bottom of the whole mess. This is so for Pisces of both sexes. Talk it over with
Ted Kennedy, Elizabeth Taylor, Jackie Gleason, Dinah Shore or Pamela Mason
sometime. They're all Pisceans too, and they've been there. EVERYWHERE.
More than once.
The Aries girl who's annoyed by the elusiveness of her Pisces man should
ask herself how
call "the dustbin of the zodiac." It's not much fun to carry the weight of knowing
you're the embodiment of
the added burden of frequent precognitive flashes that clutter up his consciousness.
Not only that, but his Neptunian compassion can seduce him into some
situations that can only be called weird. This forces him to cover the fact that
he's the softest touch in town under a variety of false fronts. These can range
from crankiness and crustiness to drunkenness - or a psychedelic trip that's far
out (far out from this harsh world). But lots of creative writers, imaginative artists
and abstract thinkers (like Einstein) have also been Pisceans, and they
learned to handle their Neptune vibrations. This man does have a choice of
streams, you know. All Fish do, when they break away from the chaotic crosscurrents.
The danger inherent in a relationship between an Aries woman and a Pisces
man is that the sexes tend to get mixed up. A male Fish can be as masculine, as
virile and as muscular as the next guy. But he's also ultra-sensitive - for a man.
The female Ram can be as feminine, as tender and as glamorous as the next girl.
But she's also strong-willed, determined and independent - for a woman. Because
of his instinct to withdraw from conflict, the Pisces man may prefer to retreat,
rather than face up to the Aries girl's Fire. She won't like it. Rams feel
helpless, and become even angrier, when they're forced to shadow-box their way
out of a disagreement. It can drive her up a tree to be ignored, and a Piscean is
an expert at the technique of passive non-resistance.
She may also resent his reluctance to push himself with others. It's beyondher comprehension how anyone can take so much lying down. Just as it's behis comprehension how anyone can stand up on his feet constantly, fightingPISCES:
exhibited at the museum's Art Show next
week. See? Here's the program. It says:
forms by Fried Hot."My paintings are going to be "Special showing of new art
Fred Haught.Are they talking about an artist or an egg? That can't be you. You're
in "Fred" is just a printer's error. I've been trying to decide what
to doI guess they weren't sure how to spell my surname, and maybe the mistake
You're going to change your name, right?Don't tell me what you're going to do. Don't tell me, let me guess.
PISCES:Well, I hadn't thought of going that far. Do you think I should?
boob, you spelled my name wrong. Print new programs, or I remove my
paintings from the exhibit."I think you should grab the art director of that museum and say, "Look,
lose my big chance to exhibit my paintings.Oh, I couldn't insult him like that. He might be offended, and then I'd
me as your wife, IWell, if you don't do it, you're going to lose your big chance to exhibitAM NOT GOING TO BE INTRODUCED AT THE MUSEUM AS
"MS. FRIED HOT," SO YOU EITHER COLLAR THAT ART DIRECTOR AND DEMAND
YOUR RIGHTS TODAY - OR I MOVE OUT OF YOUR LIFE TOMORROW. DO YOU
HAVE THAT STRAIGHT?
He won't refuse. He'll agree with her, and leave for the museum. But he
may not return. He'd rather be Fried Hot than boiled alive in her Mars temper.
Of course, this is an extreme case. Still, it does illustrate the challenges and hurdles
to be met when there's a reversal of the dominant-passive roles between
these two lovers. If there's a compatible Sun-Moon-Ascendent aspect between
their birth charts, their relationship can work out ideally. She'll have enough
Fire to spark him to great accomplishment, to give him faith in himself and his
dreams - and he'll have the right amount of Water to soothe and gentle her
fears, to give her emotional security. With an adverse Luminary or Ascendent
aspect between their nativities, however, they may face a few problems.
The Aries woman is woven of finer threads than those who see only her surface
confidence ever suspect. She is many things more than a fireball of impulse.
She's the ecstasy she felt when she buried her nose in the fragrance of the
bouquet of violets she picked in an elf-haunted, shady corner of the yard, when
she was three the kitten she watched get run over by a streetcar she's
red kites and yellow balloons, the rainy days of childhood the newborn
baby a lady on the bus let her hold in her arms when she was nine, and acting
out a private madonna make-believe the snow sparkles under the street
light she truly thought were diamonds the spanking with a wooden paddle
her fourth grade principal gave her at recess, before everyone in
school she's the sunrise someone forgot the song someone remembered
. . . . She's her first belly-smacker in the pool, when she was trying desperately
for a perfect swan dive and more. She's the poem the Pisces man
tried to write, but couldn't quite complete yet he could, if he'd only allowher to help him write the last verse.
as he's concerned, without adding the burden of the second. The common Neptune
definition of marriage is "a close friendship, recognized by the police."
Eventually he'll gobble the bait, and allow himself to be reeled in, but he'll
struggle less in the marital net if the Aries woman will pretend they're still having
an affair that's
breathing Piscean male in California who has substituted a Siamese cat for a
family (the typical Fish fears the responsibilities of a family, as he fears the
snooping of Big Brother or Sister, the Internal Revenue, CIA and FBI). The
Fish with the Pussycat has a motto he repeats often:
than diapers."legal involvement. The first one is hassle enough with which to cope, as farnot recognized by the police. I know an actual, living,"Kitty litter is cheaper
The Ram will have to make-believe with her Fish that they're involved in
only an emotional union, nothing more, even after they are duly wedlocked (she
makes him happy and causes him to feel freer, why not allow him to live in his
fantasy of bachelorhood?
He may alternate between leaving her, and returning again, unsure of how
to convince her of his devotion. But all she wants is to be loved and understood,
never to be questioned - to be accepted for exactly what she is. As a matter of
fact, that's all he wants too. The only dragons that stand between Aries and Pisces
are his Neptune illusions, which to him, are reality - and her Mars reality,
which is, actually, an illusion. Plus the smaller gargoyles of his passivity, and
her impatience - and their mutally sensitive, vulnerable natures. No outsider
can slay these dragons and gargoyles for them. They must be destroyed from
within. That's the way it always is in faerie tales. At least, in the ones with happyendings.never use the term wed-lock with him). If this keeps him romantic,
The sexual relationship between them will be the eternal and beautiful mutual
attraction of explosive activity and cool stillness. But it can also be the attraction
of a potential conqueror for a potential victim, if there are severe planetary
afflictions in their respective horoscopes. With favorable planetary
exchanges in their nativities, however, the Ram and the Fish could enjoy an exceptionally
happy physical chemistry that could outlast periodic bickering, or
hurt feelings. Their philosophical approaches to Life may be different, but their
romantic goals are identical. Both of them desperately seek a sexual experience
of great intensity - and both are sentimental and imaginative. In expressing
their love through sexual union, they can fulfill each other's secret fantasies, escape
into their own private wonderland and close the door against the rest of the
A Piscean who wants to teach an Aries girl to float tranquilly in his pond
must make a decision to level with her about everything, and then stick to it.
His fondness for keeping secrets, and for telling half-truths to spare her feelings
(or his own), is something this woman will never stand for. She puts all her
cards on the table, and she can't trust a player who hides any aces up his sleeve.
Unless the Fish is prepared to be 100 percent honest with her, in every way, he'd
better find another poker partner.
If someday he should discover he can't keep anything from her, not even his
innermost feelings, and he's compelled to confess to her all his secret yearnings
- he loves her. It's the first sign of capitulation from a Pisces man.
It's not, however, a guarantee that he'll capitulate all the way into marriage.
This man is extremely reluctant to take on the complications of both emotional
and attacking and counterattacking, and wasting all that energy. His mildness,
if carried to extremes, can finally goad her into lashing out at him with
some cutting and unkind remarks that she doesn't mean but that can nevertheless
wound his feelings deeply. This sort of scene can be triggered by almost any
minor incident.that meek - but more docile and manageable thanNone. Which means that he at least