ARIES WOMAN AND CAPRICORN MAN

The unmistakable air of loneliness that hangs over a Capricorn man, even in a

roomful of people, draws the Aries girl straight to his side. To the sentimental,

egocentric female Ram, the reason for his loneliness is obvious. He's been waiting

for her - to show him how beautiful life can be. So she directly proceeds to

show him. Aries never beats around the bush.

Her initial enthusiasm, however, may soon be stifled by the Capricorn

man's slow responses - his earthy immunity to her fiery Mars charisma, and

her impulsive emotions may finally lead her to decide he's too stuffy, aloof, distant.

How can she help him find the sunlight when he's so drearily attached to

his career, not to mention his family - including his great-aunts and kissing

cousins, as well as his saintly parents? There's little hope he'll ever sweep her

off her feet and marry her when he's already so permanently wedded to his job,

his ambition and/or his relatives.

It could be the end of a promising relationship that might have been deeply

satisfying, as well as financially successful. Why should she waste her time trying

to break through his loneliness to show him that life is beautiful, when he was waiting for her to come along, and show him how to paint

The situation:

shouldn't aggravate the injury by walking on it for at least three weeks. (Capricorns

are always banging their kneecaps, visiting the dentist, breaking bones or

suffering a touch of arthritis. Otherwise, their health is great.) The knee injury

spoils the skiing trip they'd planned in the mountains.

He has just hurt his knee, and the doctor has told him he

ARIES:

mind if I go along with the others and try to enjoy myself anyway."

"I'm sorry you can't come with me, darling. But I'm sure you won't

CAPRICORN:

"Do you know what you are? You're selfish."

ARIES:

looking forward to this weekend all year? Couldn't you make an

effort and come along, even if you don't ski?"

"Do you expect me to sit here and hold your hand, when I've been

CAPRICORN:

"No, I do not wish to come along in my crippled state, and yes, I do

expect you, if you love me, to stay here and hold my hand."

ARIES: "DO

you know what you are? You're selfish."

(Actually, they're both right. They're

both selfish.)

Another situation:

temporarily broke, so he lends her the money to have her car overhauled, and to

make her rent payment. She has no qualms whatever about asking him. After

all, they're in love. It both impresses and touches her that he's so sweet about

ARIES:

How dare he put our intimacy on a vulgar, financial basis?

CAPRICORN:

between us?

And so it goes - bumpety, bumpety, crackle and pop.

On the physical side of love between them, the same kind of hurdles must

be overcome before they find sexual satisfaction. When the Ram mates with the

Goat, it's a blending of Fire and Earth, and these are not normally the most

compatible of elements. His sex impulses are controlled by Saturn, the planet of

solid resistance, self-discipline and permanence. Hers are directed by Mars, the

planet symbolizing the masculine principle of flaming penetration. Capricorn

would rather remain lonely and starved for love than risk being burned by a

temporary passion. Aries would rather risk being scorched than not even try.

So she's usually the one to initiate the sexual advances. Assuming the stars are

favorable, and she catches him when he's too weak to resist, the Capricorn man

will respond to her fresh, enthusiastic expressions of love with the kind of profound

intensity only the Saturn-ruled can understand - and a depth of affection

that will surprise her as much as it will delight her.

If these two miraculously manage to get together, it's probably because he

has the Moon in Aries, Sagittarius, Leo, Gemini or Aquarius - or because she

has the Moon in Capricorn, Taurus, Virgo, Pisces or Scorpio. Then the differences

between them (and there are undeniable differences) will tend to attract

instead of repel. In other words, rather than become annoyed by his caution,

stability and composure, she'll respect him for these qualities she lacks, and try

to imitate them. Rather than become uptight over her forceful drive, he'll envy

and admire it, and loosen up his laces a little himself. With a harmonious Sun-

Moon relationship in their mutual charts, love between Aries and Capricorn can

grow into a deep, and lasting, devotion - sexually and otherwise.

However, with a square or opposition between their natal Sun and Moon

signs, the Goat and the Ram will either lock horns in constant battle, or become

so bored with each other that they wander off someday and forget to return.

Whatever their planetary positions, there's always the chance that his distrustful

reserve in the beginning will petrify her natural romantic buoyancy, and

they'll never get beyond holding hands at the movies - or making magical

promises with their eyes which they never keep.

The Goat and the Ram are not immune to the common mistake of all 4-10

Sun Sign Pattern lovers, who see the world through different-colored glasses.

They fall in love, then try to change the very qualities they first loved in each

other. When he first decides he loves her, he's impressed by her optimistic, bubbly

conversation. Even her recklessness intrigues him into feeling an unaccustomed,

grudging admiration. He smiles at her extravagances, and chuckles indulgently

at her mistakes. Then, perversely, he tries to mold her trusting,

How old am I? I'll be 92 next Christmas

though I won't admit to one day over 20 ...

even after all the birthday cards are cut and shuffled

it's hard to figure

I've aged at least 500 years since I stumbled into you;

yet I still believe in faerie tales

like the Princess and the Frog

and I still believe you wanted me ...

perhaps I'm only three or so?

you'll never know ... how old I am

but I'll tell you anyway

I was born the hour I met you ... and died today. *

She doesn't hear the words his heart speaks to her silently, of course. She's

thinking her own thoughts, remembering the thing he said to her, one dawn, as

they were walking along the shore, by the ocean.... when he held her in his

arms, and said quietly "and here you'll stay, until it's time for you to go."

Then she asked him, "When will that time be? " But he didn't answer. So she

never asked again. Aries is proud.

Remember the message of the stars. Those lovers who are victorious over

the heavy soul-testing of the 4-10 vibrational influence, are blessed by Venus.

And perhaps it does take the gentle planet Venus to soften two hearts ruled by

the masculine planets, Mars and Saturn. Venus . . . and music ... poetry

. . . and memories . . .

The tensions and troubles, the misunderstandings and lack of communication

this man and woman must face - are formidable. But their rewards for being

patient with each other, and waiting for the heart's wisdom to guide them -

are forever-after. Now she wishes she had stayed home and held his hand that

time when he hurt his knee. How could she have been so selfish? Now he thinks

maybe he should have offered to go with her, just to watch her ski down a snowy

hill, knowing she was his. How could he have been so selfish?

Foresight is much better than hindsight. But it still might not be too late to

say "I'm sorry." It's never too late for those who really love. And even when the

Ram and the Goat who once cared for each other are apart wherever they

are Venus is winking down at both of them, shining the message of her

light on their loneliness, with a sparkling promise of maybe a new tomorrow.

hopeful personality into a more conventional and acceptable form. But she will

not be molded.

When she first decides she loves him, she's enormously impressed with his

strong, silent aura of strength. It both mystifies and excites her. His patience

and mildness are soothing to her tangled emotions, and her heart beats faster,

just imagining what it would be like to share an intimate, day-to-day relationship

with this gentle, quietly humorous, wise and steady man. Then she begins

to feel stifled by it all, so she tries to coax him into tossing caution over his

shoulder. She beckons to him to come and chase clouds with her, to run through

sweet-smelling clover fields in a summer rain - only to find he's brought along

his umbrella again.

The Capricorn man can't understand why the Aries girl has such fun riding

on an endless merry-go-round. It only makes him dizzy. But she likes the calliope

music and the way the wind blows her hair. She will wonder why he keeps

his heart locked up so tight. He'll tell her it's just to be safe. But there's nothing

in a heart to steal. Only things to give.

When this man and woman drift away from each other, the strain of the

music they once heard together may haunt them, reminding them that perhaps

they didn't try quite hard enough. He may not reveal outwardly the pain he

feels over losing her, but still waters run deep, and Earth sorrow runs even deeper.

She will weep inconsolably for many a day, following her own fiery emotional

pattern, but by and by she'll forget, though she may watch the sunrise wistfully

for years afterward. She won't tell him how she's hurting inside - why

should she? He's so cold and detached, and barely even says hello when they

pass on the street like that time at the corner, when the city traffic was so

heavy and noisy, they could only wave to each other. He didn't even smile. But

what she doesn't know is that somewhere, deep within his lonely heart, he may

be thinking things she suspects, like, maybe such words as

How dare she violate our intimacy by refusing to respect an obligation

giving her the cash without any coaxing or quibbling. Several months pass, and

she still hasn't repaid the loan. She's forgotten all about it, you see. So he gently

reminds her, but she thinks he's only teasing. Meanwhile, she's showered him

with an expensive color TV set and a pure silk kimono for Christmas - plus a

solid gold wristwatch and a St. Bernard puppy for his birthday - all on her

credit cards. He's sincerely moved, and grateful for her gesture, but not so

grateful that he forgets to mail her an informal written statement, listing the

two hundred dollars he loaned her (with some Capricorns this could conceivably

also include a few extra dollars in accrued interest) and love flies out the window

in a burst of Mars fireworks.

(If the first one hasn't already scared them off.) She's

obviously enjoys his isolation? He wouldn't recognize beauty if it knocked him

over. She's wrong.

Capricorns do appreciate beauty. But he'll never tell her about those pictures

he painted in school when the teacher wasn't looking, or the music he used

to drown himself in when no one was listening, before he buckled down to the

serious problems of carving out his security in a mad world unless he

thinks she really cares.

It can hurt to lose someone you love because you're unable to communicate

your feelings, and this is too often the case between the quiet boy Goat and the

aggressive girl Ram. How can he let her know about all those secret dreams he

wants to give her - how can he show her the lifelong romanticism hidden deep

within his shy, funny Goat's heart? Well, he should look at it this way: if she

can't see more virtue in the exceptional than in the exciting, she's not the right

girl for him. Or he might memorize Elizabeth Barrett Browning's sonnet that

begins, "How do I love thee? Let me count the ways ," and practice,

practice, practice. Lovers down through the ages have learned they can say

things to each other in verse, that were buried inside their souls, just waiting to

be discovered, so they could be revealed to one special person.

So, you see, the Mars-directed instinct of the Aries girl might have been

right. He really

rainbows. It's just that her initial approach might have been overwhelming for

the more introverted Goat. Capricorns have difficulty coping with reckless action

and abandon, even in the name of love. It takes this man a certain length of

time to make sure he has a firm grip on the reality of a romance, and even then,

he proceeds with caution. This way, he's sure not to slip and fall, or make any

mistakes he'll regret at some future date. With Aries, it's "fly now - pay later."

With Capricorn, it's "pay now - and fly later, with a clear conscience."

Assuming Capricorn and Aries do reach across the chasm of their differences,

and hang on to each other's hands and hearts, the disparities between

their outlooks on life must still be either overcome or over-looked. He'll try to

over-look them. She'll try to overcome them. Even in tackling the problems of

their differences, they're different. It lies in their divergent approaches to a situation.

Here are a couple of examples.